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Do BP men cheat?

September 9, 2014

I've witnessed a relationship go downhill after marriage. The husband stopped being the leader so the wife took over. In the scenarios I've read in the various RP subs, this generally leads to the wife cheating. It didn't in this case, but it did leave to the husband blaming the wife for his unhappiness and him having an emotional affair, perusing craigslist for dating, etc which further damaged the relationship. Eventually he blamed her so much he ended the relationship. I guess I'm wondering if anyone has seen this behavior in a BP situation since it's not what generally gets posted?

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Title Do BP men cheat?
Author LeggyBlueEyes
Upvotes 4
Comments 10
Date September 9, 2014 12:20 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit /r/MarriedRedPill
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/do-bp-men-cheat.203004
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[–]En_sigmaMarried- MRP APPROVED4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Short answer, yes. Statistically, there will be an opportunity and the man will take it.

Longer answer is - there is a LOT less chance for it to happen and when an affair does rear its ugly head, it is with a low-scoring female. I have a ton of anecdotal evidence from people I know, and usually when you see who they had an affair it ends up being someone who is less attractive (in a yikes-sort-of-way ) and you have to wonder what they were thinking. The larger section of married betas don't have the attraction required to start hitting above their weight. Not to say that beta husbands are all ugly, but looks are not always what start affairs.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

looks are not always what start affairs

It's often attention, especially for Blue Pill guys who have been emasculated by their wives. He gets a young assistant at work who treats him like he's an important man and next thing you know, they're "working late".

[–]LeggyBlueEyesReal Good Woman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or she's dumber than a box of rocks even though he's a smart guy!

[–]UEMcGillMarried- MRP MODERATOR3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think the answer is abso-fucking-lutely. Because they are AFC's all the way. They think that they have been doing it right all along, bowing to her emotions. Being Mr Beta-Bux, cleaning around the house because that's what cosmo said to get laid more. Entering in to covert contracts to try and get the pussy they want. On and on, I could go.

But, I believe its because the guy is unplugged. A true Red Pill man knows he has choices. He knows that its a world of abundance and that at any moment he can upgrade his LTR. A blue pill guy feels he has no choice, so he cheats.

Ironically, he may act Alpha to get the pussy that he cheats with, but he does it because he's blue pill.

[–]LeggyBlueEyesReal Good Woman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Interesting points

[–]Glenbert0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]Hypnot0ad1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well, the scenario you described is what caused me to wake up in the first place. I was like the BP guy in your story. Though the thing is, I was never really a beta before that relationship. I wasn't truly alpha - I failed shit tests all my life because I didn't know any better. But I generally had a DGAF attitude that helped things.

The problem came when I dated a girl in college. She was smoking hot, smart, etc. So I thought I had found my unicorn and put her on a pedestal. We stayed together after college and things were great for a few years until they weren't. Because I was constantly acting like her beta bucks, she predictably lost attraction to me. I was devastated by our dead bedroom and tried upping the blue pill behavior in true nice guy fashion.

When nothing worked, I got depressed, started hating all women. If my unicorn was no longer what I thought she was, then all those other women were even worse in my mind. The weird thing is that when I started treating women like that they were all of a sudden attracted to me again. I've always lifted and kept in shape so when I started acted alpha the floodgates opened. I hadn't yet found TRP, so I had trouble reconciling what was happening. But it's true, I blamed her for "not appreciating" all I did for her, not fully understanding that it was my BP behaviors and my fault.

In retrospect, I should have just man'd up and broke up with her instead of cheating. But I didn't have a compete red pill understanding and in the back of my mind I still had hope that we could work things out somehow.

The crazy part is that in the end when she found out, she all of a sudden was attracted to me again, because I had finally taken her off the pedestal. But by then my unicorn was just like every other female so I said Next!

I only wish this sub reddit existed one year earlier - would have saved me a lot of time.

[–]LeggyBlueEyesReal Good Woman[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She became attracted to you again when she learned of the cheating? Makes me wonder if changing the dynamic of your relationship to you being an alpha earlier could have salvaged it?

[–]Hypnot0ad1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't think it was the cheating per se, but the possibility of losing me to other women. Really just standing up for myself for a change. I think if I understood dread game it could have salvaged the relationship.

In the end I'm better off, just wish I hadn't wasted so many years.

[–]Glenbert0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course they do. BP guy is more likely to lose his wife's attraction. BP guy is more likely to unintentionally (rather than intentionally) attract another woman at some point. BP guy is more likely to think that this potential pussy is a gift from the gods, rather than something he could actively get. BP guy is more likely to treat this potential pussy like an oasis in a desert and go for it, no matter the consequences.

And then there's the emotional "affair." Jesus. If you're going to break your wife's heart, you should at least get your dick wet in the process. Total BP move.

The most alpha guys i know aren't married. But the most alpha of the married guys i know seem like the least likely to cheat. Alphas know what they want and they are wherever they are because they want to be there.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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