Still running my MAP, lifting, holding frame, and just generally being fun around the wife. This past week I've probably had more laughs, shits and giggles with the wife than anytime in the last decade. Hell we even danced in the kitchen multiple times.

Funny thing is as all of this is happening I'm realizing that all I'm doing is being me. The real me that she married, not the BP me that was only worried about keeping her happy. Putting my happiness first may make her less happy on the surface at times, but as we all know, watch what they do, not what they say.

Which leads me to multiple RP truths that she confirmed all in the same evening.

Started the evening many hours earlier by dropping her a text from work (yes I know logistics only, but I was dropping a seed for later and using it to judge my SMV). Texted when I knew she'd be getting dressed to request specific underwear, her reply "Im almost done getting ready, stop it", I replied "then you still have time to change, no", her answer "whatever". I left that alone. Confirmed SMV not high enough yet for sexting, however she knew exactly what was on my mind for later.

BP me would have been apologizing, and texting back not to be pissed, I was just joking etc. I left it alone, went home like nothing happened. Guess who's super happy to see me when I get home? 10 second kiss, eager kino and grossing out the kids.

Had some mundane tasks to do together, mall, shopping etc. Took it as an opportunity to joke about other shoppers we noticed, laughed and took turns pulling each other by the hand in different directions laughing like teenagers. Many PDA's. Normally I would have been irritated by the crowds, and just wanted to get home after a long day at work, but I take everything as an opportunity to have fun now and my formerly grumpy wife was just reflecting back my own past shitty moods. Enjoying myself rather than complaining had the opposite effect. Happy me equals happy her now. Kind of the opposite of that other saying.

Got home, get a text from neighbors inviting youngest over to play. This day is getting better. I decide to plan on ramping up the immersion tonight, and make a plan on the fly that after I drop the kid off I'll sneak upstairs and setup some candles etc and invite the wife up after for a surprise. I never do stuff like this and have been needing to up my game in this department for a while

Get back home, go upstairs and guess who's waiting to undress me? She beat me to the punch! Change of plans, I tell her to wait a minute and close her eyes. Run and set up the candles, and open her eyes. She has a sparkle in her eyes I haven't seen in a while. You guys all know what happens next.

Afterwards, while laying together she drops a shitty comfort test while complaining about soreness. "What if I give you permission to get a girlfriend, I don't think I can handle this all the time". This caught me completely off guard. She's offering me another woman? I tell her that she can always use her mouth and hands until she's feeling better, that I won't be complaining.

At the time I went for the easy request for more (or any BJ) route rather than the more obvious "great, I'd love a threesome" reply. Unfortunately all the blood wasn't back in my brain yet and I was pretty spent. Need to work on the quick comebacks when at my weakest.

On the upside, when she complained some more of soreness later I took the opportunity to make sure I used the gift she had given me with the earlier girlfriend comment. Told her that if she was going to line up a girlfriend for me not to forget that I have standards and please no ugo's, preferably younger and with a dash of dirty. This got a disdainful look, but I just laughed it off with a "hey, you're the one that offered".

All in all a great evening that leaves the door cracked open for either a future threesome, or a side chick with the wife's permission. Not a bad night at all. Thanks MRP.

TLDR; Lift Be attractive, don't be unattractive Watch what they do, not what they say Don't be boring (look for the fun in any situation) Give her feels, good or bad Dread and her hamster are your friends MOST importantly, don't blow opportunities for threesomes or more when she brings it up! Like my stupid ass.

Edit: Forgot to add, a woman would rather share a high SMV man than be with a low SMV man.