It is worth noting the success, to keep yourself and others motivated. But if your knee-jerk reaction is that this is humblebragging, move along. I am poitning out wins and what I see as next steps.

I have been implementing MRP principles into my marriage for a year and a half now. Frequency of sex is close to the amount I want (2-3 times a week). I still want improvement on quality and that is my current goal.

I have taken the reigns of the family and I am leading well. I still need to take over the daily financial management, and put together a better investment / retirement / college plan for us to follow.

Had a big win last week. Like many here I see as one of the signs of success would be the unsolicited blowjob. Well last week my wife was on her period (which has always been a no-sex time) and I was hanging out with her on the bed and she started getting frisky.

"So I bet you want a blowjob dont you?" she said, as she lightly rubbed her hands across my chest (thank you MRP for getting me to LIFT so hard!).

I played it cool, outcome independent, as I relaxed back on the bed. I said something like "That is always a sound bet." Now I could of handled this better. I wasnt leading. I wasnt dominating (still struggling with telling her what to do and being a bit vulgar with her). However I was NOT coming across as eager beaver, butthurt or whipped.

and it resulted in her giving a BJ... and then something surprising happened. She climbed off, went to the bathroom, and then came back and climbed on top. I inquired about her period, but she said she thought we would be ok, but she didnt want to change up positions where I might see a mess down there. So we stayed in that position and enjoyed ourselves until I came. She then cleaned herself up in the bathroom, and we went back to our day.

so that was interesting - she wanted sex, while she knew she wouldnt Orgasm (she only gets off by clit stimulation and she didnt want that area touched due to her concern about period mess). I would have been fine with the BJ, but it is nice that have 'period sex' back on the table!

later in the week, we had a date night and once home as we started to get fisky, she said something like "you better not give me an STD from one of those girls you have been talking about" I threw a bit of A&A with something like "they are more worried about what they would catch from you!" and then we went at it. So I would say the little bit of dread coming out in conversation about the people at my work is running the hamster quite well.

All in all - I am psyched with the progress. Holding frame I see now as the most important thing - and i am a consistent rock in this house. I still need to improve quality, and I am hoping that by adding in a bit more dominance will increase both of our passions - its just hard to treat the mother of my children that way. (I know, I know, but it is the last bit of the pill I am struggling with swallowing).

Any other advice, please let me have it - bring the burn.