I posted about a month ago asking about how to handle a sex coupon my LTR gave me.

original: http://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2x0ne3/sex_coupons/

I thought I would share how it played out and an important insight that I had after reading some of the comments you guys had posted. All of which were very helpful to me.

After reading through the comments I was in a state of mind where I didn't even want to have sex, I just needed to reevaluate where I was in life and how I had gotten there. Many of the comments were very helpful ideas and tips that I have been using since, and many others were difficult truths that I hadn't fully accepted.

My gf came home shortly after, complained of feeling ill and went to bed without mentioning the coupon. I stayed up and thought long and hard about the kind of person I was and the kind of person I wanted to be and what went wrong along the way. I was especially frustrated because I had been trying to be the "Red Pill Man" for about 5 months and saw little to no real change in the dynamic of our relationship or her attitude towards me. I was the most depressed I had been in a long time. It was at that point I realized that all this depression and negativity I had been feeling was because, despite implementing OI, passing shit tests, getting in better shape..etc, I was doing all of these things to make my gf like me more when I should have been doing them for myself and no one else.

This realization got me thinking about the past 10 years. After swallowing the pill, I had been dwelling so much on how much of a blue pill pussy I had been in my relationship with my gf, that I had completely forgotten all the awesome "alpha-ness" that existed outside of the relationship. I spent too much time worrying about if what I was saying was beta or alpha, if it would turn her on if I passed this shit test, if it would make up for some beta bullshit I had done 3, 5 or 6 years ago. Just like that all of the alpha moments from my life came pouring back into my memory and I was filled with an old confidence I thought I would have to rebuild from scratch.

I remembered girls who had shown obvious interest in me, but that I had turned down because I was a loyal and devoted boyfriend, despite them being much more attractive than my gf. I remembered the two girls that offered me a threesome, that I again turned down. All of the girls with boyfriends or husbands that openly flirted with me in front of them. While thinking about this I didn't dwell on the blue pill response I had, but the fact that I was and still am, an awesome guy that girls want. Even two girls at once. While those two girls were probably 4's or 5's at best, a threesome with two 4's is still better than duty sex with a 7.

At this point I said "fuck this coupon bullshit". Not from a place of anger at my gf, or even a place of anger at all, just because I realized I didn't need a coupon to get laid, and it was a good feeling, I had a smile on my face. The next day all I could think about was all of the cool alpha stuff I had done in the past. I sent my gf a text telling her I was coming home for lunch and to be naked and have a sandwich ready for me. She responded with "we'll see". I didn't say anything back because it didn't matter to me anymore. Sex or no sex, I knew I was awesome and becoming more awesome every day and her turning me down wouldn't change that.

I came home and she was just getting out of the shower and putting lotion on. I was checking her out for a minute and she says "can I help you?", I said "we'll see" and I picked her up and carried her into the bedroom and fucked her brains out. I didn't worry about making her feel good, or using any of the SGM techniques I had read about earlier that day, I just had my way with her because I knew I could. I then got up, got dressed and asked her if she had my sandwich ready. She said not yet but she would do it right now. I hung out in the kitchen eating an apple while she made the sandwich and she asked if I liked it when she made me food naked, and told me she would have to do it more often. The "old" me from the day before, despite having taken the red pill months earlier, would have sent that text with a nervous energy, then spent the rest of the afternoon thinking of witty things to say in response to her shit tests or whatever she wanted to throw at me. Letting that go has helped me tremendously. She hasn't mentioned the coupon since but I still have it. I'm going to take the advice of one of the comment's and bring it out at an inappropriate time just to fuck with her. It will be fun. Maybe at her families Easter party or something.

Since then I make it a point to think about alpha instead of beta things I have done in the past, while continuing to improve myself daily. I have gotten sex or a bj almost everyday since then, all while spending less time planning responses for shit tests or thinking about how i'm going to act "alpha" when I see her later. There have been times where I actually turned her down for sex after being too tired from the gym. I can't remember the last time I turned her down before that.

Many will ask why I am still in this relationship, not being married and having nothing to lose with a girlfriend who seems to have given up. My gf has many positive traits, she hates feminism, believes in traditional gender roles and is submissive when she has a strong man to submit too. She gave up on me only because I gave up on myself. I don't want to spin plates, I want a solid family and a happy relationship in which we are both fulfilled, and the red pill has helped me understand how to achieve that, but I had to find myself again first.