Summary: Women want to be dominated by a high SMV man. Do whatever it takes to raise your SMV.

I entered my marriage in betaland, marrying a LTR of about 3 years. We've been married about 4 years and it's been bluepill from the beginning, complete with starfish dutysex 2-3 times a week. I got tons of resistance such as "Mabye I have a low libedo" "It's painful for me" "I'd be more willing if you would [follow my commands more]" "I don't know why I'm always tired!"

About 6 months ago, I was browsing through a post on "The most hated subreddits ever" and came across TRP. I began reading, and I couldn't stop. I literally stayed up all night reading. It was like all the truth that I knew deep down inside but couldn't bring to understanding literally jumping out of my phone screen into me. Truth is like that.

Change started with me. My wife wouldn't let me get a gym membership [at first], so I began working out with whatever I could. I'm tall lanky guy, so gaining muscle mass was a matter of eating more and working out. I did pull-ups and dips on a rafter in the attic, used gallon jugs of water for curls and side raises, and did calisthenics. I read the books and tried to implement the principles as best as I could (This was by far the hardest part). I failed and failed and failed some more.

My wife took notice of me trying to improve myself and went through different stages. First, she mocked me (especially with lifting). Then she took the concerned motherly position of encouraging me like I was her kid with dreams of one day becoming an astronaut or president, but I could tell she was just waiting for this "phase" to wear off. I began to tell her that I needed to lead. This was a mistake. She came up with 1,000 reasons why I sucked at leading. It wasn't until I stopped trying to negotiate and just began taking charge that she began to relinquish control a little.

I began to own my shit. She used to ask me to do chores around the house. I now did them without being asked and when she did, I learned the WONDERFUL PHRASE from NMMNG: "I'll handle it". The frame was: i'm not my wife's bitch, but my house is my house and I'm taking personal responsibility to maintain it.

I also began owning my shit at work. That's where the FR begins. I stayed late to finish some paperwork a few nights ago and was planning to go out with some coworkers afterwards. I called to let her know I'd be late Her: No, come home now! Me: I have some important things to finish, and I want to go out. Her: I'm busy, please come help me (this is common. I help her a ton) Me: I'll let you know when I'm on my way home.

I finished my shit and then thought of implementing something I saw on TRP:

[later on] Me: I'm on my way home, see you in a half hour Her: complains about all the stuff she has to do ok well i'll see you soon Me: Hold on, before you go... I want you to put on [specific lengere she has] Her: (dumbfounded, we had sex last night) ...ok Me: Great, see you soon.

When I got home, she had put a robe on over the clothes I had requested, and was finishing up her work on the computer. She had also made the bed: Something she hardly EVER does. She immediately tried to get me to become OI by kissing me and then pulling away. I maintained OI and told her I'd give her some time to finish up and went to take a shower.

She came at me with more intensity than ever. She said things I've never heard her say before. She even attempted deepthroating me. Then came something I never thought I'd ever hear her say in a million years: "Twist my nipples. I want to feel you desire me". She came hard. and... oh yeah, so did I.

Case in point: Women want to be dominated by a high SMV man. It is your duty as a husband to continue to raise your SMV. As you do, she will begin to want you.

Lessons Learned:

  1. Low libedo/Sex hurts/I'm busy is bullshit. All of those things are only true when the man has a low SMV. Raise your SMV, watch them evaporate.
  2. Be paitent. This was 6 months in the making. It takes a long time to unwind all the bluepill conditioning we've all been through. MarriedRedPill is about self-improvement. Your wife is probably going to judge your self improvement the toughest. You have to have real results before she notices. It won't happen overnight BUT! When it does happen, it will be lasting, and I am convinced it will be worth it. Read the entire sidebar, read the books, set goals, and figure out what you have to do to get there. Then go fucking do it.