Last night my wife was in crazy bitch mode. The kids had her at her last wits end. She had a million things to do, and its probably the most crazy day of the week for us schedule wise.
I got back from the oldest's football practice, and grabbed some leftovers. I told my wife "I'm going to grab a shower, if you leave the dishes and the toys and I'll get them. You can relax a little."
She immediately answers "I have no time to relax. I have to do my nails, blow my hair out,..." (we have a wedding to go to tonight) at no point did she say 'yes' or 'no'.
In the past I would have tried to calm her down or reassure her; but basically I would have tried to create peace in my house. My wife was famous for the attitude "If I'm crazy, you should be crazy!". But now I don't care if she gets butt-hurt about something I say, do or don't do, because that's her business.
So I quickly and succinctly told her "Hun, I said I would do it. Either agree or don't, I'm not debating whether you are busy." and I walked away. She immediately saw her mistake. She followed me out and quickly started to tell me with little girl eyes "I'm sorry, I'm just so frustrated with the kids..."
Women will create drama in their lives and try to suck you in. Five years ago I would have tried to soothe her, up the beta, and generally tried to make peace. Now, I don't give a fuck. If she's in her own created drama, let her fucking deal with it, and certainly punish poor behavior. Now I can sit through these storms because I can calmly say "This aint my thing, in the end it won't change me."
So gents in the heat of these epic crap fests get in your own head and remember "I am not going to be fixed on the outcome of this. I am not going to be swayed by her trying to make me feel bad" and you can bring incredible clarity to a situation. Then in an instant you can drill down to the point without being sucked in.
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