Tl;dr - decaying bedroom revived by MRP to the point where I'm getting laid daily and fucked her ass for the first time in 4 years.

Background: Forgive me initially for format and spelling, as I must be on mobile, which is a pain in the nuts. Me 36M, her 35f, married 11 yrs, together 16 years. Met when we were 19 &18 in college, not the TRP ideal but the internet was a baby then, and TRP didn't exist. We have a 2 1/2 yr old girl.

Fast forward to 2 months ago. My bedroom never died, but I came to this place for help because it was stale and decaying. Sex was maybe 2 times a week and unenthusiastic leg spread starfish "masturbate with my pussy if you must" sex. Worse, she was becoming a raging bitch all the time, fighting over every stupid little issue and driving me insane. HERE's the straw that broke my camel's back - during a fight, she screamed "if you die in a car accident tomorrow. I will be happy. I will be so fucking happy you have no idea", with a maniacally large-eyed stare. It not only pissed me off but broke my heart. Here I was, a devoted husband and father and she gleefully tells me she wishes I was dead. Can't get worse, right? It does, because when I confront her about it the next morning, she fucking gaslights me and claims she never said it, and that I was crazy for thinking she would. Reason would not prevail, and I was devastated about how a woman I loved, and who was so good to me all these years (to be fair, she invested her youth, a substantial sum of her parents' money, and her own money in me and my career) could say that and pretend it never happened. I took all the traditional advice, such as talking to her, trying to do what she needed, and none of it worked. I felt that it was all slipping away somehow, and nothing I tried was working. So I found the deadbedroom sub, which took me to TRP, which brought me here.

Journey - after finding and swallowing the pill, I looked inward instead of outward. I got naked in front of my mirror, and said to myself "if I was a chick, I wouldn't fuck you". And it was true. Not my insecurities speaking, but the truth. Even though I was an attorney that made good money, I knew that no chick would ever want to fuck me at this point. And then it clicked with the red pill. My wife is not my happily ever after princess. She's a chick. A pretty decent one as chicks go, but she's still just a chick. No wonder she doesn't like fucking (being used as a blow up doll by) you. No wonder she's pissed. Look at you. You are 70 pounds overweight 6'1, 255 all fat), and you are a surly, miserable, unhappy little shit that's 2 steps away from alcoholism. She's falling out of love with you because you made yourself unworthy of a woman's love, and she's losing it.

I internalize the sidebar (and especially Rollo Tomassi's stuff) and get to work. I join a gym and get up at 5 am every day to either lift and commute to work, or just get to work ballsack early. I revamp my diet. I work on projecting an Alpha personality in looks (dress and grooming), posture, and most importantly, attitude. She notices right away, and we go from stale bedroom to outstanding sex twice a day on the first weekend since swallowing the pill. I learn to pass most of the shit tests and comfort tests, and do my best to maintain frame without going fucking lunatic Rambo on dread. Critically, I read and effectuate as much game material I can, and I flirt with this girl constantly, before I get out of bed, throughout the day, and when I get home.

The early results are good. She's enthusiastically fucking (and loving it) almost every day, I get a naughty pic text for the first time ever (after begging for years as a beta bitch), and she's treating me better than ever. Shit tests are getting infrequent, and are more flirty than bitchy. I'm not getting blown (which she never liked to do, haven't been blown to completion in about 6 years), and I' m not getting anal (last time 4 years) but it's looking up. Hey, at least I'm getting great PIV every night, right?

Patience, superior game, and anal:

In addition to lifting and frame, I made sure not to forget about gaming my wife. I tease her, fuck with her, flirt with her, and basically started treating her like a girl i wanted to bang, not one I felt entitled to bang. THiS IS KEY. Raising SMV is not enough - you need to seduce your wife like you did when you first bagged her all those years ago - every goddamn day. This includes being unpredictable (thanks /u/TrainingTheBrain), and knowing what she likes. My girl's soft spot - massages. We had some leftover kinky massage lotion, so I incorporate it into part of my game. It's good stuff, but for external use only. I research things further and learn the best thing I've learned in ages - Unrefined, extra virgin coconut oil is a great massage oil and great lube, all in one, provided no ones allergic. So I the start my naughty coconut oil Massages, which lead to caveman every time, and got so popular that she would initiate sex by asking for a "coconut massage". In only 2 months this has become a thing, and I ask her if she wants an appointment at the "Coconut Day Spa". This also gives her an easy way to initiate, by asking for an appointment. All this time though, I had my eyes set on anal again. Thus, with each full body naughty massage, I make sure to devote time to her asscrack and asshole. No penetration, no sneaky shit, but explore and bring to the forefront.

Fast forward to today. She wants to return the favor and give me a coconut massage. We banter all day about anal, with me throwing it out there but putting no pressure. She acts indignant, repeatedly saying "Rex, I don't like anal and you're not getting it. Get it out of your head." Anyways, we get to her massaging me. It's good, and she works me pretty good till she gets to my cock. She massages that like a champ until I' m hard, then she climbs on top (this bears a pause. This is probably the first time in 4 years that she's mounted me. Keep in mind). So she rides me until she cums from me fucking her back from underneath.

Then this. Her: "get some coconut lube on your cock and get it in my ass". I do. We fuck doggy with me in her ass, but it's sliding out due to the lube, so I tell her to get on her back with me standing by the end of the bed, and I start fucking her asshole again. Her: "I'd better feel you cum a lot in there because this isn't happening again for a while."

As I fuck her ass harder missionary, this from her: "Put your finger in my pussy". So I do. She's fucking drenched. Me: "my god you're soaked. Did you cum this much from me fucking you in your ass?" Her: "Yes. Now keep fucking my ass and come inside there". Which I do, obviously.

Conclusion:

MRP/TRP works. It got her wanting to do something with me that we haven't done in ages, and seem like it was her idea. This was not duty anal - this is genuine desire, and the proof was the river of cum and begging me to continue.

NOTE: YMMV. Since coming here and reading the stories, I consider myself pretty fortunate. My bedroom hadn't yet died before I found this place. Additionally, my relatively quick turnaround can be attributed to the fact that my wife did not meet and marry me as a beta provider. I was a frat guy party animal when we met. We hooked up our first night meeting and were fucking 4 days later. We spent the next 2 1/2 years fucking like rabbits even though I had a shitty GPA and no direction. She pushed me to law school, and the rest is history. I was her AF that became AF/BB, then began sliding into full fatass dadbod betadom. Your turnaround may take longer depending on your wife, your status in her eyes when you met, and how far you've slid. I will continue To improve my ass and hope you all will too, because this shit is real. And it works.