This comes in the form of an FR from RPW.

THE ORIGINAL THREAD:

Foreword

We love telling stories and FRs about success with us, but rarely do we consider the success our wives are having because of us. What I'm saying is that our FRs are very one sided. Yes, we are all about the male strength here, but we are also about the marriage and making sure our FO and crew are in line. As Captain, it's important to ensure troop welfare when the primary mission is accomplished. Her happiness is important but not at the cost of our own.

This post in RPW is nice FR that illustrates the value in having a happy and fulfilled wife. While this FR shows that she came to these realizations without his initial change, it does show that our wive's happiness can do wonders for our own.

This FR puts a new light on that old shitty maxim, happy wife, happy life.

Summary

A self-proclaimed feminist, who is married, discovers after realizing that her marriage is about to end pulls back on the nagging, mothering, and insulting when her husband loses his job. She begins encouraging instead and finds that even though she was passed over for a promotion amidst all of this, that she is still happy -happier than before- because her husband is happy now.

Some Key Points

From the Intro

I had been the type of woman who was proud to make more money than my husband. I would brag that my job was high pressure and that I didn't have time to do domestic things.

To begin, she used to be the kind of womyn that found pride in not being a contributing member of the household. She doesn't do domestic things because misogyny, but he can do domestic things because feminism.

He had settled for a terrible job that totally demoralized him and he lost all ambition to do better with me taking the role of the breadwinner.

He bought into the Blue Pill ideals that she's #1, that her opinion matters first, that his is second because, well, that's just the way things are.

We stopped having sex.

This is almost buried in the first paragraph, but she clearly sees it as a problem. The language says "we." She eschewed using "he stopped having sex with me" or even "I stopped having sex with him." This is actually huge because it definitely shows her mindset now against the backdrop of then; it's a unit problem... not a me or him problem.

Of course we know, sex is the barometer for the relationship.

We would go out to eat and I would always pay because I'd tell him he couldn't afford to pay for dates. I fell into a mother role where I would constantly nag him. All he did was play video games.

She nagged the husband out of him and tried to make him the oldest teenager.

Later

My husband lost his job... But the moment he told me... something clicked. This was our opportunity. I immediately told him that I couldn't wait to see how he would do in his next job, that this was great news and it was time for us to make a change anyway.

She opened the gates and let him see the opportunity here. She didn't say outright, "I need you to..." because that's pulling him around like a child. She's giving him the space to be a man here.

I didn't suggest that I would support us on my salary alone (which I had always said in the past).

Deciding not emasculate him further, she instead gives the appearance of no options. He, at this point probably sees that she hasn't mentioned money and it's time to make sure he can make his family survive.

The first few days were really hard. He had a hard time looking for a job. But I gently made suggestions and then pulled back, and eventually he came to me with ideas, thoughts on what his next steps were, etc.

He starts slow because he's new. He knows he's supposed to do this by himself, but the legs are week after the crutches go away.

I was unequivocally supportive. I told him how smart and capable he was and that I knew he would be able to get any job he wanted. Every time he went to a job interview, I told him how proud I was and made sure to shower him with physical affection that I had withheld for so long. He works in a very in demand field, and within two to three weeks he had a job for double his previous salary.

By simply smiling and encouraging -being his cheerleader- and simply kissing him (as how I read this) and hugging him he had the confidence to move forward with himself.

A New Man Emerges with His Happy Wife

We went out and he bought all new clothes -- dress shirts, nice pants, etc. His wardrobe had become basketball shorts and video game t-shirts prior to this.

Whether it was her idea or suggestion or his, it's fine start. A good product needs good packaging and good clothes can inspire confidence in one's self.

I felt the urge to complain, and I didn't.

Sometimes we men feel the urge to call our wives harpy-cunts... but we don't because it's low-quality behavior and unproductive and moves us into their frame.

I would make sure he had food to take to work, which I "didn't have time" to do before because I was so busy with my job.

I wonder if she had time to make her own food for work?

I was passed over for a promotion, in favor of a male colleague. I was very hurt and upset. I worked harder than him. I'd been on the team longer than him. Then I stopped and thought, "I have worked so hard, sometimes at the expense of neglecting my husband, and where has it gotten me?" I pulled back from work. I stopped checking my email outside of work hours. I stopped being available for every emergency.

She realizes that "having it all" is a fallacy cooked up by the feminist regime the way politicians make promises that are impossible to keep. Feminists recruit so many into their fold with the idea that women can be great wives AND be the best at work AND be the best moms. Then, once hooked, they tell you that you can be the best at work and that the wife and mom stuff isn't really that important.

no man has ever said "I have worked so hard, sometimes at the expense of neglecting my wife, and where has it gotten me?" because they know where it has gotten them: more money and a wife who beams at his success. Clearly, in this example, she knows while she was doing well at work, she ultimately wasn't happy. Why? because her husband wasn't happy. She knew, without saying it, that her happiness is based on his.

A New Woman Happy in Her Marriage Emerges

I put more of my focus into my marriage and self improvement. I exercise almost every day. I dress better. I clean more often. I make sure we always have food prepared, I'm always trying new recipes and making sure his favorite foods are on-hand.

How about that: A woman doing things for her husband that make him happy makes her happy. Just like men, working hard to be successful, leading her, and making her feel well desired through attention and a proper fucking makes her and him happy.

I had always enjoyed "domestic" activities before, but I felt ashamed of it and like I had to be a strong woman who could support herself and didn't have time for frivolous things. Here I am now, giddy at the thought of my husband coming home and seeing our bed made up with our new mattress, sheets, and pillows that I set up while he is at work. I can honestly say I have never in my adult life been happier.

She realizes the feminist lie about domestication. She realizes that she doesn't have to do what they say... if ironing and making the bed makes her happy, then who the fuck is anyone else to tell her otherwise?

The Realization

I think you should read her bullet points on the significant changes , but the crux is: sex with her husband makes her happy, he spews pride in how she is now, he gives her attention and affection, she is attracted to him, she takes care of her body (likely because she saw a positive return loop with how much she enjoyed sex with how she was looking better,) he retreats to her instead of from her, she wants children with him.

The last one is very interesting. We know that all women have a biological imperative to make babies. They will say they don't, sometimes, but what they mean is that they don't want to, with him. This woman, here, suddenly finds her husband attractive and worthy of depositing his offspring inside of her... all because she is happier in her marriage.

Conclusion

When considering how your changes and your improvements benefit the marriage from your perspective, as part of your introspection, be it during lifting, meditation, or simply bro time, consider we create our own positive feedback loop by making her happy; If we are happy, she is happy. If she is happy, she is pleasant and takes no issue in trying to make her man happy, ultimately making us happy. This in turn makes her happy from the success, and happier later because our good mood pays immense dividends to her happiness... and the loop continues.

However, don't get soft, complacent, or lazy: Get a hobby, build something, and lift!