From a recent OYS:
Got some IOIs from friend's LTRs, commenting on my looks, past achievements, flirting a bit, asking lots of questions, comparing their LTRs to me, etc. This made me uncomfortable... Not sure how to handle these situations best. I try to downplay, deflect, ignore, boundary, and prop up my bros. It's like I'm on the other end of a shit test/hypergamy and noticing this annoys (probably cause that is what my STBXW used to do).
At some point in your journey, perhaps before you pass the Epic Test becoming your own mental point of origin where everyone else is noticing your changes and how good you're starting to look - perhaps even your new mental outlook - you're going to get complimented on it. Probably by your wife's friends. Or coworkers. Or your mommy.
Autists here fear that if they accept the compliment it's going to feed their ego or dancing monkey. Or they're so fucking beta they have never gotten a compliment before. So they mentally reject it.
When given a compliment you have two choices: accept it or reject it.
Guess what happens if you don't accept it? Inside you self-deprecate, and everyone reads through it.
Iron Rule of Tomassi #9
Never Self-Deprecate under any circumstance. This is a Kiss of Death that you self-initiate and is the antithesis of the Prize Mentality.
Self-Depreciation is a misguided tool for the AFC, and not something that would even occur to an Alpha.
So the next time someone - perhaps even your own woman - gives you a compliment, you have permission to deal with it in two ways:
- Say thank you and continue the conversation if there is one. STFU.
- Be authentically masculine in response with -zero- fucks given no matter if the person is a dude or a girl. "Oh your arms are looking bigger, Larper McFaggot. Have you been lifting weights?".... Your response: "Of course I have - how am I going to pin my next girl down to the bed 50 shades style?" or or some other non-autist AA/AM funny response*.* Because that shit is funny to talk about and harmless.
The key? Authenticity to who you are.
Who gives a fuck if it's your buddy's wife? It's just a compliment. Fuck, game her if you want after she opens the door. When she's fucking him but thinking of you later, he'll have a good time. Your little secret, ok?
Or if it's your woman? Same rules apply. Personally, I prefer to game.
When people compliment you with authenticity, they are usually playing the nice card or being vulnerable. Don't turn their vulnerability against them by being a retard. You're not measuring yourself against it. You're already the prize. Least you can say is thank you.
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