No. You really weren't. No one really was. What you were was in a time of your life when you had no responsibility. Then for some reason you decide to complicate your life with a wife, job, house, college debt, car....then kids. And just like that you assumed a life time of responsibility before you were really ready. Just because you were free of all that and felt like you had a good bead on your life doesn't mean you were alpha.

What the statement "I used to be alpha" is really telling everyone is your ego is seriously in play. Your ego is an obstacle that must be overcome if you have any desire to grow and move on. It's a wall that prevents learning, and an excuse to ignore thoughts worth hearing. So, either get over yourself, or get comfortable with a stubborn and stupid version of yourself.

This level of ego will drive you to feel like you are entitled. Entitled to the best sex, best life, best job, people submitting to you when you walk into a room. We've seen men come in here and suddenly "get alpha" and really what happened is they felt entitled to all the things that come with life with none of the understanding of how to actually get it. When you act with entitlement, you deserve disappointment. You end up expecting someone to do something that can only be fulfilled by THEM. That's a powerless position to put yourself in. This explains why you're always victim puking.

Any relationship marred by ego cannot stay for long. To give your ego a boost, you will always think twice before taking the initiative in a relationship in any situation. You'll FEEL like you have to say something, you'll FEEL like you have to sperg out, FEEL like you have to....This is because ego boosters give you a false sense of superiority in a relationship. In reality, unless you have your ego in check, you are far inferior when compared to your wife in a relationship.

Practically speaking, everybody in this world wants to have that false sense of superiority. It makes use feel better. Emotions have a strong impact on the decision making process. Its why the whole world has shifted towards emotional outrage over everything. It literally makes people feel better to get upset at the slightest thing. Women have become extremely effective at it while men follow that example of emotional puking, feelings of outrage. Hence, in the battle of ego vs relationship, it is the ego which will be the winner and relationship will always be the loser.

A mature man makes the right judgment & applies wisdom; A strong man holds onto his beliefs; A Weak man allows others to decide his fate; an immature man lets their emotions decide his actions.

Everything men do is a decision.

We just rationalize it as outside influence.