I'll improve so mommy will accept me

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If you don't understand this post, just ignore it.

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"I'll improve, so mommy will accept me". That was a thought which crossed my mind today.

I just realized the problem. We talk about absent fathers, abusive fathers, blue-pill dads, all this crap. This is just another veil of the system. Focusing on males... presenting them in bad light.

I worked in EMS some time ago. I saw that typical alcoholic patient was living with his mother. Single mother. 40-yr old alcoholic and a 75-yr old woman, for example, daddy died of hepatic cirrhosis decade ago. She is sick, obese, needs help, but no, we are not called to help her. We are there to help her son. The alcoholic. The bad man. The abusive male being. That stupid drinker.

I was so blind to it. Perhaps because my mother was codependent as well.

For the most of my life I was focused on how bad my alcoholic father was and how wrong he did and all that stuff. Where the hell would I get those thoughts from. In the meantime, my good mother helped me not to get too angry and bought me cigarettes a few times, for example.

My mother did nothing to protect me from my alcoholic father in the past. This is a trait all codependent women share. They are not able to protect their offspring. And, as I see now, they manipulate and control. This is how their instincts play. She will rather want to see her son suffering, but under control. She will rather have an alcoholic at her home, than a healthy man few blocks away, because that's what she wants, that's what she needs. And, when her son became an alcoholic, she takes care of him. She knows what to do.

Sometimes the best we can do is run and cut all contact. No matter, if mother or an ex wife with shared custody. Cut all contact in order to fix yourself. As long as you are able to do this. As you are still alive.

This is how codependent women work. Control is all they want. Their manipulations will kill you.

I remember another case from the ambulance, a man hanged himself. At the scene I saw a decent looking 30yo woman. She was looking pretty attractive to me. Our patient was DOA. I commented her looks to the driver when we were heading back, he was a local, he told me that this was second guy of that woman who hanged himself.

Second fucking male dating that woman who hanged himself.

Codependency kills. I remember myself 3 months ago, rationalizing heavily ex wife's cheating, manipulation, sexualizing all the shame. I literally want to puke when I think about this today, so I'll stop.

This is why young boys or fucked up older men need another man to get them from under the sphere of influence of a codependent, manipulative shrew, no matter, wife or mother (hey, MRP beginners, do you see the difference between your wife and your mother already?). This is why there are so many of us addicted to validation, to fixing mommy, to helping mom. This is why we want so desperately to save them.

This was all play on their part. A manipulation. A game that they can pull so easily it becomes silly on their part.

I'm not demonizing women. It's just how it works. It's their instinct.

We protect other human beings. They protect themselves only. Being a bitch of an abusive alcoholic and ignoring your child's needs is way better alternative than getting beaten up or raped for trying to protect her kid.

This is why TRP/MRP exist and this is why this is a male space. I guess women literally don't give a fuck about other human beings. Calling women "mothers" or "nurturers"... cool, how many women raising other woman's children do you know? I know NONE. How many men raising other man's children do you know? I know three and I generally don't give a fuck about my social network... and still know three.

This post is not anti-women. This post is about fundamental differences between sexes, especially in a more fucked up situations.

Remember who they respect, gentlemen.

This is not about you. You are not a special snowflake. Your wife is not your mother and if you're like me, even your mother is not like your mother. She will not love you the way you crave love. She can only act like that, for a moment, in the beginning. When you're hooked, you're done with that.

So either man up for yourself... or get a silver cat tape and tuck that balls hard. Because you're fucking alone here. Maybe you will find a man or two who will help you. Maybe you will. But I'm telling you to tuck it, unless you're not willing to man up. That's the state of the married red pill in my eyes today, July 2016, that's how I see that.

Acta, non verba.