Investment in Self

It's difficult to write about the subject of focusing on authenticity without paying homage to one of Rollo's more insightful post's on genuine living Mental Point of Origin. It's a great post and a must read if you haven't done so already.

I'd like to take it down a different path.

Quite a few men here fall into the Me vs Her mindset when working to develop the self and remove the programming installed by society.

This is detrimental to overall development of the family man as it unnecessarily creates a conflict and obstacle in his path.

As men, we need to look out for our future self and a part of that is performing preventative maintenance before we're forced to perform corrective.

You perform check-ups on your engine before it breaks, the same goes for your marriage.

While you are developing the new you and asking your questions on this subreddit, stop and look at where your wife and children are at in their life.

They don't have a forum online helping them understand how to defend against a toxic, consumer driven society.

In my post Balancing the Scales I state:

"Most of the problems men are experiencing come from a lack of understanding that their failed performance led to a women losing sight of who she was and what is expected of her.

Do not resent her for any of this. Own your shit and own your relationshiptogether you will reach the optimal level of living and marriage."

Investing time in you does not come at the expense of investing time in your family.

You should act as a rising tide which raises the standard of all boats, not just your own.

Make them a part of the process and let them in on your new insights towards life.

Don't share Red Pill knowledge with them, instead, cater the message and make it your own. Have them view you as a man who is full of this wisdom and desire to live an authentic life instead of trying to keep up with the Joneses and consume everything the ads are pumping into the market.

It's possible to reclaim your life, along with your marriage.

It isn't You vs Her, it's the two of you vs the world if you make it so.

Obviously some marriages are too far gone and the wife may not want to play by the rules the new you has set, but that should be the exception around here, not the norm.

New Subreddit

A few of you are aware that in March I set a goal to write a post on the blog every day.

and I failed...

The campaign I was leading turned into what became known as #MenofMarch which made sense because it took place in March & primarily on Twitter (Hence the hashtag).

The results men experienced & shared were incredible. Although I missed my goal & others missed their's, we kept grinding and at the end of it, the momentum spilled into every other aspect of living.

Not only did these men experience an improvement in their quality of life and ability to live genuinely, but their family improved as well.

After some aggressive demands by the guys I turned the campaign into a book 31 Days to Masculinity

I also decided to create a subreddit /r/31DaystoMasculinity to create an online community dedicated to men looking to find their Authentic Self.

It's not Red Pill or MRA; just guys looking to 'reset' their mind's to how they were before society conditioned their every behavior.