Common theme among unattractive men - they just can't make a fucking choice. This is for the most part just a rant.

You see it all over r/askmrp. Every post is effectively the same thing - "Help! Help! Help make this choice for me!"

Just randomly picking from the current front page, we have

  • I want to leave my wife, but probably not for a good reason. Me 30 - wife 25
  • Want a LTR, plates too distracting
  • Want to improve my fiance's domestic skills. Classes?
  • How to become more successful in initiating sex? Share your strategies.
  • Do you feel closer to your wives after MRP?

You might think the last two were really about discussion. You'd be wrong.

And please give input on mine. I don't have much experience in LTRs.

and

Do you guys feel like you have a closer relationship with your wife after making the change from beta to Chad? Or am I misguided to think those two things are possible at the same time?

The real translation is this - "I am scared shitless of doing it wrong, so I want to shift the burden of ownership". Other people might be more charitable and call it analysis paralysis. But either way, it's just weak men being pussies - more afraid of failing than they are of the odds of doing something and possible learning something along the way. Active, engaged analysis and learning apparently isn't a thing anymore these days.

But why's that so bad - you might ask? I mean, does indecision really lead to bad consequences?

Yes. It makes you insufferable - and a generally awful person to spend any time with.

Two weekends ago, I spent the weekend in Vegas with a 22 year old buddy of mine. Really nice guy, pretty personable, decent looking but jesus christ did I lose all respect for him after that weekend. Frankly, it's unsurprising why he doesn't really succeed with women. The whole entire weekend, I could not get a single preference out of him. The whole thing was painful - "Thoughts on food?" "Oh you know, wherever." "Steak or sushi?" "I'm good with either." Passive, reactive, and oh so fucking boring. It was as if he weren't there, completely inconsequential. His existence literally did not matter to me. Hell, it didn't even matter to him apparently. How do you engage with someone like that? The answer - you can't, and so you don't.

The power of choice is that making a choice means having a consequence. For the path that is chosen, there will be a path that is rejected, and with that comes ownership of the consequences of the decision that is made. To make a choice, to be decisive, is to embrace that risk and potential uncertainty. It's much easier following than leading - and unless you really incompetent, most people are happy following. Just pick a path - and maybe you'll learn something along the way.

  • Re-write the kitchen lighting, and get zapped a few times. Residential voltage won't kill you.
  • Try to fix the garage door opener, and bust the entire thing - so now you're stuck replacing the 20 year old opener.
  • Eat that escargot from that shady dive bar in Miami - realize snails are nasty.
  • Choose to not fuck with the engine, and pay $2000 to the professionals instead.
  • Fuck that sketchy hooker. Most STDs are curable.

Or simply make the choice to not choose, to not care, which is very different than being ambivalent.

Making a choice is really easy. Just go do something. Sure you might be wrong, but at least you'll stop being one of those jackasses who are at a fork in the road, sitting around twiddling theirs thumb in their butts, waiting for someone else to hold their hand and lead their way. Those guys aren't making progress. And no one wants to hold your hand if your thumb has shit on it.