Post after post after post here and on askMRP lately have been something like this:

OP: "I've been doing MRP for 4-8 months. Lift religiously, solid gains, dress sharp, killing it at work, 2-3 cool new hobbies, IOIs from random bitches. But wife still barely fucks me. What do?"

Comment: "do you flirt/game/initiate?"

OP: "no, because reasons".

Comment: "are you fun?"

OP: "no, need to work on that".


See the problem? If you don't flirt with and game a woman, she's not going to fuck you. It doesn't matter how "hawt" you're getting. This is just as true for your wife as it is for some club girl or Tinder slut. No game = no fun = no pussy.

We tell newer guys to go slow and not go Red Pill Rambo. Nowhere do we say not to initiate until you've won more Super Bowls than Tom Brady. In addition to lifting, dress, frame and the other dread levels 1-5, you need to be working on game. And you need to be fun! The last thing you need is to go from being a fat, supplicating bitch to being her boring, old, stodgy, all-business father. She doesn't want to fuck either of those archetypes.

Flirt with your wife. Give her the same body language, smile and eye contact we tell you to give strange broads in public. You know, Be Attractive. Now she's your wife, so you can and should push the hell out of the envelope with her.

We have a litany of posts on how to get your wife to be a slut (check my post history, /u/TheFamilyAlpha 's post history, The Family Alpha blog, MMSLP, etc.). But if those are too advanced for your marriage right now, and they might be if you aren't hawt enough yet or don't have total frame, here are some beginner basics and tips that have worked for me:

  • Give her a kiss and firm ass grab when you get home.
  • Pinch her ass or push up on it if she bends over in front of you.
  • Pass shit tests with A&A laced with light hearted sexual innuendo. (here's the subtlety. Sex and sexuality must always be at the forefront, but do it smoothly. Even if you are six-pack jacked with bitches throwing their panties at you in the supermarket, most women do not like downright raunchy sex talk out of nowhere. It activates their latent anti-slut defense and makes them feel dirty. Then they feel like you are being creepy. Don't do that - that's unattractive.)
  • If she says something mundane, pretend you misheard it as something sexual, then laugh about it together and give her a knowing wink.
  • Kino. Do it regularly, without being creepy. Sitting on the couch together? Quit being the scared little boy we all were when we were 13 and went to the movies with a girl for the first time. She's your wife; put your arm around her. Pull her in for a quick kiss. It doesn't need to be 10 seconds or bust. It needs to be fun. Give her the butterflies in her stomach. Make her feel alive.
  • If she puts her feet near you, rub them. Run your finger gently up her calf.
  • try tickling her next time she acts bratty
  • if kids aren't around, rock out with your cock out unexpectedly from time to time. If she comments, say "stop looking at my penis, you little pervert!" In a joking tone.
  • if you wake up before her, roll her way, gently rub your hand on her mound while leaning in to give her a good morning kiss. Judging her reaction (and based on logistics), this can lead to wake up sex. Bonus points if you have raging morning wood. (Pro tip - women are shit judges of cock size, so use this to your advantage, no matter your size. If you wake up raging hard, prop yourself up so that your torso is sitting at about a 45 degree angle to your bottom. Say "oh my god, hunny, you gotta wake up and see this". This angle will make it look like your dick reaches your navel, which is one way chicks measure dick size. It's retarded from a mathematical standpoint, I know, but remember women don't have any concept of actual measured length. They go by feels, and the relative size comparison here is what a lot of women use to judge whether a cock is average or huge. Many a morning I've done this, and even though I know it's the same size, I act like its unusually huge, and the result is her saying "holy shit! I need to feel that - let me pee real quick. Keep that thing hard!")

Bottom line - unless you in the act of withdrawing time/affection, be fun and flirty all the time. It won't always lead to sex on the spot and generally won't unless you escalate it - but it doesn't have to. You are setting the tone (frame) that sexy fun is just something you two do. It's part of your marriage. Do it all the time, and it won't seem weird to her and activate any latent slut defenses, because that's just what you do. If you have logistical opportunity, escalate if you want. If she no's, go about your business and try again later/tomorrow.

Come up with your own moves, but remember: Girls just wanna have fun. So be fucking fun!

Edit: best I can do with formatting on mobile.