Have you noticed this? I'm sure many of you have, and it's probably been observed in previous posts. But here's how it came to me:

The MRP is a set of behaviors and mindsets that increase the overall value (SMV) of us as men. Frame, Fitness, Friends, Finances, Hobbies, Reading, Game, etc. If you aren’t getting what you want out of life, it’s your fault. Good Quote by Jim Rohn: “Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.”

What blows my mind is the synergy of the elements, the way you work on one thing and the others get better. The behaviors and mindsets are not separate, but connected in a web. Strengthening each strand makes the whole web stronger. MRP is so much more than the sum of its parts.

For me, swallowing the pill last year was hard. Denial turned to anger turned to acceptance, which turned into action. Man I choked it down. But the Professor’s words rang in my ear: “Your journey begins in the gym, where you will lift heavy weights to exhaustion 3-4 times a week.” OK. I can do that. You have to start fucking somewhere, and since I was barely fucking my wife at the time, I hit the fucking gym.

The gym released a lot of the anger, which made it easier for me to stay in my frame when I came home. As my body grew stronger, so did my mind, and controlling calories and cravings became easier. As I have grown more stoic, I have grown more quiet, and more efficient. More efficient is more productive, which means more value at work, and more time at home. More time means things get done easier, there is more fun and less stress.

Less stress equals more control, which leads to less fear, more confidence, and less anger. All of this together has obviously increased my SMV, which has earned me more attention from women, especially my wife. More tingles leads to better and more frequent sex, which leads me right back to the gym.

And my wife has no idea what is happening, but she is pleased. Yesterday, she looked at me and said, “Things seem a lot better with us, don’t they?” I didn’t take the bait, and STFU, but I couldn’t help but smile. Later, when she came downstairs in her little exercise shorts, I isolated and escalated. “Don’t get me all wet before my run,” she laughed, and headed out the door.

Like many of you, I found this place trying to fix a sexless marriage, and avoid the horrors of divorce I was seeing all around me. As illustrated, it has begun to work. Catastrophe averted. But what I didn’t realize... was that the entire experience of life would be so, so much better. The way it all works together, I feel like a more evolved man...though I think this is the way I was meant to be. I guess I’m just less devolved.

Right now I’m reading The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. It’s a good one. If you haven’t read it yet, the first chapter is called, “Stop Hoping for Completion of Anything in Life.” Good reminder. The bad news about the MRP life is that it never ends. This effort is the new reality. But the good news about the MRP life is that it never ends. This effort is the new reality.

I’m wondering if others have noticed ways in which the elements of MRP have worked together in amazing, unexpected ways. Have you noticed the synergy I speak of?