This post is about a phenomenon that I have seen play out here and in /askmrp multiple times. I have also witnessed it with the men that I have helped in my personal life that are taking some Red Pill coaching from me. Since I am creative as fuck, I am going to call it Mr. and Mrs. Smith Syndrome, based from the movie Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie starred in years ago. For those of you that don’t know about the movie, the reader’s digest version is they are a bored married couple who are each secretly spies from rival organizations. They do not know that each other are spies until at some point in the movie they both independently find out about the other.

The concept I am writing about is based on a mildly entertaining scene that plays out when they are having dinner with each other at the house, trying to go through the standard motions of what their marriage has been every other day, but each is cautiously watching the behavior of the other, waiting for an attack. Watch the movie if you want to see what happens because the rest of the scene is an analogy for what will happen in your marriage and family if you mishandle the Red Pill.

So here are the stages of Mr. and Mrs. Smith Syndrome:

  1. Blue Pill Beta Bitch finds the Red Pill (Confusion Stage)
  2. BPBB starts lifting and internalizing sidebar (Monk Stage)
  3. BPBB gets pissed as he realizes his whole life has been a lie (Anger Stage)
  4. BPBB starts to view his wife as an agent of the system (Paranoia Stage)
  5. BPBB starts treating his wife like his enemy (Attack Stage)
  6. BPBB wrecks his marriage (Fucked Stage)

Let’s take a closer look at each stage…

Confusion Stage

We’ve all been here. This is Neo realizing there is a Matrix. You start to see the strings controlling you but you don’t understand what it all means and how deep it goes. The problem is, it all makes sense and you keep going down the rabbit hole.

Monk Stage

Unless you are a complete moron you do not share the Red Pill with your wife, especially at this stage. You STFU and read and start lifting. You will start getting questions from her at this stage about the change in routine you have started to implement. Again, unless you’re an idiot you just keep going without saying much here.

Anger Stage

These first two stages are pretty basic and are the standard reaction most men have to the Red Pill. As such, they don’t need to be corrected, and in fact I don’t think you can correct them as they are more reactions then conscious actions. The Anger Stage is different. Most of us do hit an Anger Stage, but what separates the real men from the faggots is how they react to the anger. Yes, you were lied to your whole life, but no it is not your wife’s fault, even if she is the one that has actively been abusing you as her Beta Bitch. That is her programming but it was your fault for allowing it. Be angry at the system and yourself. If you cannot do that, now you are going down the Mr. and Mrs. Smith path which takes us to the next stage…

Paranoia Stage

Okay. You’re pissed. You’ve been lied to, used, and abused. And that BITCH you married is the cause. She’s not the soulmate you thought she was, she is an agent of the system. Now you put everything she does under a microscope. She hugged you on your way to work…was that a comfort test? She asked you what your plans are tonight…was that a shit test? She said her N count was 4, but is she lying because she rode the cock carousel and the real number is 40? Oh Jesus you told her you loved her, are you losing frame?

Jesus, what a faggot. Relax.

Attack Stage

This is what I see too much of and it’s a sad thing to behold. Bluepillprofessor said it best, we give men dynamite here so they can remove obstacles in their lives but many of them use it to blow their families up instead. Just like Brad and Angelina you and your wife go into attack mode. The tools you were given in Red Pill to make you a better man, like DNGAF and Abundance Mentality, now make you a heartless cunt to the woman you chose to raise a family with. You’re on Dread Level 4 and decide you’re going to kick her out or start an affair. No judgement. Fuck who you want to fuck, but don’t fool yourself into thinking you’re doing it from a place of Alpha mindset. You are still a Beta Bitch who has little to no self-control and must fill your empty sense of self-worth with something besides personal development. Oh, and if your wife is destroyed in the process you don’t care because she’s your adversary. Right?

Faggot.

Fucked Stage

Nothing’s left but a handful of destroyed lives. Good job, Captain. You really did great, didn’t you? What a strong Alpha Male you are…

Conclusion

Stop living in paranoia. Relax. Lift. Digest the sidebar slowly and with repetition. Go through the levels of dread slowly, and if you get to the end and she hasn’t come along for the journey you can calmly next her with a sense of Amused Mastery. Don’t create a marriage infected with this Mr. and Mrs. Smith Syndrome. Stop fighting and looking at her every action as a potential attack.

TLDR:; LIFT