So in December, me and my dad went on a father son trip across country for a week, on which he ended up, unsolicitedly, spilling the beans about his marriage with my mother. Being TRP-ified myself, it wasn't all very shocking.
Basically my dad is a pussy beta and he doesn't know it. My Uncle (my dad's brother) is a single guy, always single, like Leonardo DiCaprio (pretty much same hair too...). He's the fun alpha bartender, loads of cash on him at all times. My dad on the other hand, as much as I love him, is boring as fuck. Saves every penny with Mom, does just about nothing exceptional bar one beach vacation a year (that Leo will join in on).
Dad starts going off about how he's just started realizing, now going back through his life, all of the inappropriate shit my mother has done, just shit she's said to him, and the way she's acted with my Uncle, we'll call him Leo.
Basically, Mom wants to be with Leo. Every year she dresses to the 9's when my uncle takes her out on her birthday dinner date. Dad says she NEVER puts that effort in for him. Another time, when she was hammered at a bar with friends (rare occasion for them, again, they're boring as hell) my mom wrapped her arm around Leo and started sensually kissing his cheek, while my Dad stood silently behind fuming, not saying anything.
He also recalled a time when my Mom was explaining to my Dad how her sister use to hit on her former boyfriend at the time, and how much that annoyed her. My Dad said he felt the same way about his ex-gf and Leo hitting on her. Instead of Mom feeling any sort of remorse, she immediately replies, "Well, why doesn't Leo hit on me?"
Best one: My parents had a summer party one time with friends and family. A friend of the family, we'll call him Chad, was there. Chads a tall, super muscular dude. Mom was playing 1on1 basketball with him in the driveway for an hour. Dad didn't think anything of it, just a bit annoyed. Later on after the party, Mom and Dad are knocking boots, Dad climaxes, pulls out, and Mom yells...."Ohhhh Chadddd!".........this is a true story, ladies and gentleman.
I ask Dad, "?!?! Well, what the fuck did you say?!" to which he replied "I was in shock. I didn't know what to say." and Mom just played it off like it was nothing, "Oh that funny Chad guy..."
The reason I give you these stories is to show the amount of help he needs. I know if I was in his position I'd straight up get the papers ready. But Dad's plan is that he's going to bring this all up to her soon. About how inappropriate she's been in the relationship. Aka he's going to beta whine and make my Mom respect him less and want Leo or any other dude more.
Knowing my dad, I think what he would want is just for Mom to respect him, love him, and just not be a whore (over divorce).
I've tried dropping some truths but they didn't stick. Essentially, I understand TRP, but I'm not great at explaining it. I need one article, one book, that'll just explain everything that's happening. The beta bucks husband situation he's in. That will show him that he needs to work on himself and be stoic and less emotional (he's way more emotional and sensitive now...).
Since my dad is technologically retarded and ADD, is there one article, one book, that I could print or buy him, that will make everything click, and prevent the disaster that will ensue very soon?