I have been married over 10 years and everything was wonderful until earlier this year. My wife is kinda going through a mid life crisis in my opinion and she keeps saying to herself that she is 25 years old but she just turned 40. I wanted her to chase her goals earlier this year but she is constantly on her phone trying to go get as many "likes" as possible on her photos. She started putting on makeup and she takes selfies every 10 mins. She now wants an open relationship and It's difficult for me to handle. I honestly have been faithful to her our entire marriage and I always loved her...always will, I don't go out drinking with the buddies or anything like that. I just work, come home, and spend time with her...I'm exhausted. I saw the signs:
#1. I was able to look at her phone whenever I wanted now she guards it like a hawk.
#2. She asks about an open relationship because I'm not giving her enough sex.
#3. She told me one time that she is going to live longer than me.
#4. She wants me to work out more, which wasn't a problem before.
#5. We have problems communicating which wasn't a problem before. We do yell once in a while, (Not often).
#6. We use to fight once a month but now our fights are more frequent, We don't do the physical fighting stuff.
#7. I've cried more this year then I ever have in my life because I really care about her.
#8. Guys call the house asking for her this year, which never happened before.
#9. She doesn't help me with any of the chores around the house, I have to do them on my own.
#10. She feels like I'm her room mate but I do a lot for her and when I tell her she gets mad.
I know there are two sides to every story and I wish she could say hers so you can get the full picture.
I think our marriage is now dying and I would like to start repairing it or prepare for the inevitable. I'm really hurt right now and I would like some advice if you can pls.
Thank you!
Signed
Overworked Husband!
[–]chachaChad2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
First off... Read the entire sidebar...
Second... the marriage is already over. You just don't know it.
That dude who called your house has already railed your wife and so have lots of other dudes. She wants you to know that she's already opened the marriage.
Stop being a doormat to someone else. She's done. So should you be. There is no saving this. The longer you hold on, the longer this train wreck will drag you on the ground.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
"As a newly single woman, you're free to be as open as you'd like to be."
Then let her discover on her own the joys of post-wall dating.
[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Probably the worst. Ever.
OP is banned.
[–]Rian_StoneHard Core Navy Red0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I hate children
[–]TheGear0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I think commentors have missed this is x posted from that subreddit and not OP. That dude needs to take a deep dive into the sidebar, OR, is a troll because holy shit how can you be so naive.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
1) Actions say: She has something to hide
2) see chachaChad. She's already cheated
3) She's fantasizing about life without you
4) She's compared you to peers, and you don't rank.
5) You aren't giving her feels
6) once a month she cycles into "I want the best genes" mode. Huh. Coincidence?
7) How many times has she cried over you?
8) see chachaChad. She's banging them
9) That's not going to change once she leaves you.
10) You're a faggot. Read the sidebar.