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On break with LTR that still wants to make it work

August 25, 2020

TL;WR: After a very bad break up/onetitis I got into another relationship with what RP would consider the ideal female. After awhile I lost my way and ended up leading to a weird “pause” in the relationship and I’m trying to get back where I need to be

I’ll keep this part short due to it being irrelevant now and too much nonsensical details that no one gives a shit about. I moved into a new state with an old LTR, She basically cheated and fucked me over with an apartment I was unable to afford on my own. Found TRP and became obsessed with it. Read every day as much as I can. Met a new girl towards the end of me getting evicted. She basically took me in.

Throughout most of the relationship this girl would honestly be “ideal” to what RP preaches to LTR. Goal driven, obedient, followed my lead, was able to take care of herself, small female social circle, didn’t post really anything selfie wise, didn’t hide me, honestly was my own Unicorn. HB8-9.

Issue that lingered is I still had onetitis for my ex, so I always reminisced about what I had with my ex, honesty wasn’t anywhere close to what I had. Issue was it was a onetitis. And for that it eventually ate away at the relationship. Eventually it went away after blocking her and removing her entirely out of my life (minus some debt we owe on an apartment)

As the year went by I slowly lost my way and I guess reverse internalized all that I learned. I know and remember what I read but I couldn’t put it into practice. She still had the same qualities but it was an onslaught of constant shit tests.

Fast forward to the past couple months with quarantine, I essentially showed I wasn’t able to lead anymore with poor choices, weak frame, loss of fitness, and just bad habits (lazy and video games).

This past months we had an altercation to where it lead to a “break”. I know what the stigma with break is here; “she’s using that to sleep around and talk to other guys”. Though that has been constantly on my mind, I confirmed that isn’t the case multiple times.

As of right now I’m actively working to get my fitness back up (I didn’t get fat, just “flat” if anyone that gyms regularly knows what I mean”. I’ve cut out video games entirely and have been more proactive in general.

After talking with her she wants to fix this but needs her space. She does go over her gay coworker’s house often after work whenever I work. (Which lead me to initially think cheating). We still have sex, kiss, say the I love yous and all of that. But she doesn’t trust that I can lead the relationship like I have before.

This seems more like a MRP thing that the regular RP hence why I’m consulting you guys, but how do I demonstrate and put into action that leadership and fix this relationship.

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[–]johneyapocalypseTold Death to Fuck Off - MRP is easy mode / MOD || 😃😃[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link

Take this to OYS or ask mrp.

[–]AbeWasHereAgain3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You need to pull your head out of your ass. Just look at the wall of text you just wrote; all of which basically boils down to girl does not like me anymore.

Based on what you wrote, you need to start lifting again. If you can't afford weights, just do body weight stuff. Remember, she should be attracted to you, not you chasing her; but the only way that's going to happen is if you get happy with yourself.

[–]Jacked5parrow1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am lifting. But I do believe the attraction has definitely taken a hit. Physically I’m good, it’s the mental part that I’m struggling with.

[–]AbeWasHereAgain1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's not how it works. Mental stuff is usually driven by physical issues. How's your diet? When was the last time you went for a run? Go run a mile, then about an hour later pay close attention to your mood. Same thing with eating. Go eat some nasty ass processed sugary stuff, then pay close attention to your mood. You can also try a cold shower, which will increase testosterone.

Long term - EVERY MORNING, when you are in the shower, find 3 things from the day before that made you happy...

This does two things:

  1. It forces you to not dwell on only the negative
  2. Over time, you figure out what makes you happy

[–]Tyred_BiggumsMRP APPROVED - anal on 2nd date2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]Jacked5parrow0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

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