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Own your shit isn't her autobiography

October 24, 2021

Whinemoreplease posted something to Twitter and I had to see it for myself.

Oh sweet Jesus... What the fuck


I gave my wife papers last week. It was not well received. The last few days were an emotional tumult. The upshot is that she is refusing to sign anything but she'll reconsider if we try counseling. That seems cheaper and easier than a lawyer battle so I'm getting a counselor to do a few sessions. I think she realized that her life goals aren't achievable without my support (or another beta bux), so her best option is to try to keep me around. There is very little incentive for her to sign, and she has everything to lose by signing. It's going to come down to me making it clear that the life/lifestyle she had isn't coming back.

I read this whole field report, and I learned nothing, nothing about this man, other than the same regurgitated lift numbers. I know his wife is:

  • a horse girl
  • getting divorced
  • emotionally distraught
  • Shes semi pro
  • she has a vision to be a world champion or something
  • shes protestant
  • his job isn't good enough to pay for all this; and in his words
  • I don't ride, personally, just do about an hour or two of stall cleaning to help her out. I'm not saying lifting isn't important, I'm saying a man is more than his lifts.

Own your shit. The guy isn't even a factor in his field report. Why did /u/red_koan even come here, why not send his wife to write this shit out? We haven't had a VampireSquidina-like account come in and start Karen-ing shit up in a while. The only thing I know about him is he's her stable boy and sugar daddy.

And it's not just one guy:

> Wife late thirties, together > 10 years, 2 kids one preschooler and one toddler

36, ... wife 30 105lbs

Why the fuck do I care about your wife, or anyones wife in here?

I get it's not everyone, but it's still a lot of people. It's fucking weird how fast the Hunter Drew School of Do it For Her has seeped into here. Meanwhile the field reports are a ton of future tense bullshit:

I need to do X and I need to do Y

Asshole. To own is present tense, not a future tense. dafuk did you do, what are you trying to do, and how well did action and intent match? All the work is in pinging ideas off of other guys to close that gap. It's not about treating your wife like a swiss watch, a puzzle to be figured out. It sure as shit isn't about writing her auto biography. /r/stupidslutsclub tells much better stories anyways.

It's not about making this the He Man Woman Haters Club either: In those field reports are covert contracts, nice guy behaiour, and basic bitch mistakes. Lifting numbers don't hide that. When I see shit like OWS #43 followed up with a Chapter one Robert Glover style fuckup it shows me someone has wasted an entire year, a fucking year, on playing with his dick and calling it alpha. Guys, you are getting closer to death every day, life is too short to accomplish nothing.

To those who this doesn't apply to, you don't have to post below about how this doesn't apply to you. Let it lie. For the rest of you guys, stop posting the cooking cutter MRP template hoping that you'll come out the other end like some kind of god among men... Married and Red Pilled isn't about a checklist to meet the ideal, it's about you solving problems surrounding sex, relationships, and eventually, a vision for your future.

Get it through your thick skull. Nothing in here is about her, no one cares what she does or what she thinks or how she feels. This isn't a place to stave off divorce rape. This is about fixing you, full stop.

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Title Own your shit isn't her autobiography
Author RStonePT
Upvotes 72
Comments 47
Date October 24, 2021 12:38 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/MarriedRedPill
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/own-your-shit-isnt-her-autobiography.1082111
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[–]NotUltmatecad 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Men don't fix relationships. They fix themselves. Once a man is fixed, life is on easy mode, because anyone who wishes to have a relationship with said man must treat him well to stay in his life.

The blue pill conditioning men have received tells them the opposite. It says relationships are work. And men should compromise. And men should put others in front of themselves.


I have field tested this. So have my friends. Make your mission your mistress and care for those who care for you. They pay upfront.

This is why we are banned and hated. Because we realized we have the power and we are the prize. Its not because we don't think women should vote or whatever bullshit the blue hair fatties moan about.

Its just about basic self respect. You can be generous and giving but be the Magnanimous King not the bootlicking court jester

[–]business_-_travel 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Men don't fix relationships. They fix themselves.

Relationships are a woman's job, not a man's job.

[–]Praexology 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

But seriously, if you're a 20ish year old guy married to a woman who is >60yo. please post that, very interesting. Lots of questions.

[–]broneilbroUnplugging 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It’s like a Dear (Enter Some Columnist’s Name) page. The numbers are for RP deposit points just so they can write BP checks they cannot cash.

I think the mods and community need to reset OYS into a “YOU” only and anything with “HER or SHE” gets ex communicato

[–]ItsStillYurSet 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is how it is. Rule 9.

[–]threekindsofluckyMRP MODERATOR / Married 12 points13 points  (28 children) | Copy Link

OYS reads like relationship advice.

No one is blazing their own trail. Everyone is just 'reporting in'.

Compare this week's OYS thread to any OYS thread 2+ years old and it's a night and day difference.

I don't see any of the current crop making it.

[–]Blarg_RisenMRP MODERATOR 26 points27 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

Theres a saying: Never walk into your boss's office with a problem unless you also have a solution.

Back then guys treated this place like that. Time to bring that back.

[–]business_-_travel 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Back then guys treated this place like that. Time to bring that back.

The hardcore ban hammer as a tribute to WNS/WMP is coming back...

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 4 points5 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Why invest in people who won't invest in themselves first?

[–]InChargeManMRP APPROVED 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude, that is the way things are going everywhere. Somehow that is the attitude towards life that is being learned. I don't why or how it is happening, but it isn't just at MRP. Finding starting employees that have internal locus of control has proven very difficult of late.

I'm shorting this shit.

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

oh dear.

[–]BigBoiBahmani 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

If it wasn't for our own innate understanding that spreading knowledge is beneficial for all, no one bother telling someone "You're retarded" either.

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

our? thats rich.

Learn to separate tone from content and stop wishing to be coddled, because if some randos on the internet can ruffle your feathers a wife will eat you alive.

No ones goal here is to spread knowledge for all. There is no altruism in the married red pill. The sooner you understand that the better off you'll be

[–]BigBoiBahmani 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

"Our" as in "human's", not the people here. More of a evo psych thing I pulled out of my ass. But I get what you are saying Rian.

Edit: Nahh I am no HOA or you or MRP sage. Just a guy putting in thoughts. Some of them are stupid, but they work for me well enough. But I like to believe I know some things.

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

will have to take your word on that as you've offered fuck all else.

[–]BigBoiBahmani 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Understandable. Anycase, thanks for helping me out your book and work has saved my life.

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Glad you enjoyed it man, cheers

[–]red-sfpplusMRP APPROVED / tells 1000 lb club pussies to fuck off 3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Time to bring that back.

Meh, who cares. I just shit post on discord now. I know the right people from here IRL and that is all I need.

fuck everyone else.

[–]Blarg_RisenMRP MODERATOR 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Take what works.

[–]ItsStillYurSet 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Exactly! Who gives a fuck!

There’s a couple frequent mods in here who just post “you’re retarded” on everyone’s shit all day long. But offer no advice to guys who truly just are having a hard time. If it’s retarded I don’t get wasting your precious time commenting on it. Let the retards knock themselves out with silence.

They’re on their own ego trips with their fancy mod tags forgetting they also were once fucking retarded.

[–]threekindsofluckyMRP MODERATOR / Married[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're retarded.

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

But offer no advice to guys who truly just are having a hard time

And who the fuck are you to deserve someone elses time and effort? How much have you invested in your own life? Are you having specific issues, or a general 'life sucks, what do?' comment?

This place has never been about becoming a savior to other men. It's a bunch of dudes working on their own shit, and swapping notes with each other over what worked.

Until you fundamentally understand the difference between owning your shit and asking for advice, the only reasonable answer you should get is being called a 'retard'

[–]BigBoiBahmani 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

All the shit you need to know has already been discussed and posted in detail 5000 times.

You're not special. You aren't the first and not the last.

If you really need answers, find them yourself. I say it because I did it. WNS called me a fag and banned me. What did I do? I did what he told me to do. Sidebar. I read and watched all of Rian's and Rollo's content. (Yes all of it I am a bit of an autist myself) No one knows who the fuck I am, but I know enough and do well for myself.

Just find what you need, fix your life and get the fuck out. All we assure is, that you are not special. All the shit you need to know to unfuck yourself is here.

Good advice is a gift. It takes time and analysis. Don't expect it. Mostly we will point to what you should go to, and laugh at you. Someone telling you "You're retarded" is a gift as well. If you weren't fixated on watching a painting of your own ass, you'd be glad someone cares enough to tell you.

No one owes you shit. This is what being a man consists of.

You mad bro? Go fuck yourself.

Why am I writing this? For you and some other cunt who'll read this.

[–]HsNamWsRobertPaulson 3 points4 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

making it

Serious question. What do you mean by making it? I interpreted MRP as more of a constant state of improvement not an end goal.

[–]PutABabyInThat 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I interpreted MRP as more of a constant state of improvement not an end goal

You can fine-tune things forever...

But making small adjustments as you're headed off a cliff isn't going to do anything.

There is one thing that you need to take away from MRP and it's this:

You are the only one that actually matters.

If you can't figure that out... nothing you do here is going to make any real difference in your life.

Dudes get banned multiple times for rule 9, they get told constantly to focus on themselves, that their wife doesn't matter...that other people don't matter. But they just can't seem to grasp the idea.

Not everyone can make that jump.

[–]oobertasUnplugging 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He already said it:

a vision for your future

[–]SBIIIMRP APPROVED Ballbuster 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

And therein lies your problem. No wonder you missed the entire fucking point of both the thread and the response you replied to. This is why you - and the other cunts who clog up OYS each week with their poxy diatribes - will never "make it". It's like putting a bunch of retards into a circular room and telling them that the best way out is to sit in the corner.

[–]threekindsofluckyMRP MODERATOR / Married 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The only correct response.

[–]HsNamWsRobertPaulson 3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Am I retarded? Of course I’m retarded. I didn’t end up on MRP because I know what I’m doing. I prepended “serious question” to the beginning because I was legitimately interested in the answer not to be snarky. All this in an effort not to be as retarded.

[–]SBIIIMRP APPROVED Ballbuster 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Do you expect everything in life to be spoonfed to like you're a fucking baby?

Fuck me.

[–]ItsStillYurSet 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Some guys need more work than others. You don’t have to help them but some guys will. Some of this shit seems so simple for some. As for people like me and probably many others who had to read NMMNG, WISNIFG, 4 times before really absorbing it. They come here overloaded with information (if in fact they are actually doing the work).

And just don’t know where to go. A lot of the material is very contradicting. It’s like starting at a new company getting throw 100 manuals on your first day and then told. Get to work. Then getting called a retard for having questions or being confused, No ones gain to success from that type of leadership.

There’s a lot of people who do come here with no intention of doing the work and are retarded and don’t deserve the time but there’s also guys who just need a better understanding of things and take more time to “get it”. Every situation is different but one thing is for sure we have all started out retarded

[–]RStonePTOfficial Counterfeit Goods[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you know what DEER is?

why are you doing it here? What are you trying to accomplish with your comment?

[–]BostonBrakeJobMRP APPROVED 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

constant state of improvement

Sounds fun...

[–]We_waz_alpha_n_sheet 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for this post my dude and thanks for your red morning video on the scoreboard that I watched today. It reset me back to basics in a way.
6 months ago, when I started, I fixed my style a little bit, lifted a bit harder. I acted with newfound big dick energy due to the potential of becoming the next horns or because of the hope of finding a dad on this sub.
For the last 2 month my shit went unowned because my ego told me that the burst of effort all that time ago was enough and I don’t need to make any more changes, I just need to change her (lmao).
Dread levels can fuck off, she can just be a woman or die(act like she died) or whatever, the giant covert contract of doing this for her needs to fuck off next.
This is all about the man and holy fuck how boring is this man, his style is wank and his lifts are painfully average.
Time to stop lying to myself about my SMV and huffing copium in OYS threads.

[–]BigBoiBahmani 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Watch Rian's recent red morning : Men are our own worst enemy. It specifically addresses that.

[–]We_waz_alpha_n_sheet 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the heads up! It does expose me as a LARPer. I love it!

[–]zino193 -6 points-5 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Wow - married guys got angry at their wimpy "broetherz"

Maybe realize that all the guys you built your clubhouse with during the trumpening aren't the cool chads of the 2000s. Maybe some self reflection - people that follow politics and hang out in discord and zoom calls don't have the most busy life.

[–]threekindsofluckyMRP MODERATOR / Married[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stick to TRP.

[–]Dunlop60Grinding 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Maybe some self reflection

Sounds like you need to take your own advice before casting such a wide stereotype net and projecting so hard

[–]zino193 -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Wow brother-man, you certainly told me off. They don't care about you.

You just make them feel internet famous. They will not ease the weight of your own life - only you can carry that.

[–]Dunlop60Grinding 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

They don't care about you. You just make them feel internet famous

I take it you're speaking from personal experience, given how much advice you post on RP and FRP and AskMRP.

Is that what you're after? Internet fame? Or are you somehow different, and you're the only pure-hearted person on the internet who's posting advice out of genuine altruism and the self-enlightened goodness of your superior heart?

They will not ease the weight of your own life - only you can carry that.

Man, I'm so glad I have enlightened folks like you to straighten me out and teach me deep wisdom that I already know.

Here's the thing about you smug-ass Eurpoeans-- you genuinely think that you know everything, and that whatever advice you dole out is fucking mana from heaven. You seem to genuinely think that your shit doesn't stink. You call this place a bunch of Trump supporter dudebros yet you never actually bothered to look around and see that nobody gives a fuck about politics and that shit just straight up isn't talked about here. Because it doesn't matter. You reflexively recoil at what you call "conservative" politics (but only 'conservative' politics, whatever that actually is) but don't bother looking into what people say or believe. You probably genuinely believe you have no biases, and I'm sure your ego is absolutely enormous.

But that's fine. I mean, you're so far ahead of the rest of us that I suppose I'm taking the wrong approach here. I really should be dropping to my knees and kissing your feet, enraptured at the thought that some random Eastern Eurpoean faggot saw fit to condescend to come to this subreddit and bless us with his wisdom.

Thank you, kindly sage. My greatest aspiration is to one day become just as incredible as you.

[–]PonchoToTheFaceGrinding 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"MRP is not some special group that you're a part of."

Who gives a shit if this dude calls this place a bunch of Trump supporter dudebros? You care way too much.

[–]Dunlop60Grinding 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good point, I let myself get way too triggered there. Thanks for the call out

[–]zino193 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ouch, so sensitive. I really touched you there.

If you think TRP doesn't have a politics problem... Do yourself the favor and explore the "best of" posts before 2016, in order. It's quite refreshing. A simpler time about men and pussy.

[–]BigBoiBahmani 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wanna fuck your wife

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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