A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength.
We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men. In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves that they are working on. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them.
Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters is that you are taking steps to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice. Also, don't blame others for your shit. This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger.
Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha.
Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR4 points5 points6 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]over60_stupid_loner 2 points2 points2 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]tim_rp3 points4 points5 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]tim_rp0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUsMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]tim_rp1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED2 points3 points4 points (12 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ParadoxThatDrivesUsMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]jigglydee0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]jigglydee0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]IASGame0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]cj_aubreyMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]over60_stupid_loner 2 points2 points2 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]cj_aubreyMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]PM_me_your_fistbump1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]jNSKkK0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]What_is_real_anymore0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]CopyAndPaste2015Unplugging0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Ive_Had_Enuf 1 points1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]over60_stupid_loner 1 points1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]Ive_Had_Enuf 2 points2 points2 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (14 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (13 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR-1 points0 points1 point (10 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]il-est-ressuscite 1 points1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT0 points1 point2 points (10 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Kosmoknots 1 points1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (26 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (17 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (16 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]over60_stupid_loner 1 points1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]SepeanMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]cj_aubreyMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]cj_aubreyMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]cj_aubreyMRP APPROVED1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ReddJiveMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]ford_contourMarried- MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ReddJiveMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]jarep0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]jarep0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]TheThirdT0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]frankiejholden0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]jigglydee1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]tim_rp0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ex_addict_broDivorced - MRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]PurpleVeteranMRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]ex_addict_broDivorced - MRP APPROVED0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link