A fundamental core principle here is that you are the judge of yourself. This means that you have to be a very tough judge, look at those areas you never want to look at, understand your weaknesses, accept them, and then plan to overcome them. Bravery is facing these challenges, and overcoming the challenges is the source of your strength. Hiding these weaknesses is bravado, beta, and people can smell the weak frame from miles away. Own Your Shit is the only way to make your own path in life. We have to do this evaluation all the time to improve as men.

In this thread we welcome everyone to disclose a weakness they have discovered about themselves. The idea is similar to some of the activities in “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. You are responsible for identifying your weakness or mistakes, not blaming others but yourself, and even better, start brainstorming about how to become stronger. The weaker you are in an area, the more important you work on it hard. Mistakes are the most powerful teachers, but only if we listen to them. Embrace this. We encourage constructive suggestions on how to overcome weaknesses.

Think of this as a boxing gym. If you found out in your last fight your legs were stiff, we encourage you to admit this is why you lost, and come back to the gym decided to train more to improve that. At the gym the others might suggest some drills to get your legs a bit looser or just give you a pat in the back. It does not matter that you lost the fight, what matters to us is that you are deciding to become stronger. However, don’t call the gym saying “Hey, someone threw a jab at me, what do I do now?”. We discourage reddit puppet play-by-play advice.

This thread is about you finding how to work on yourself more to achieve your goals by becoming stronger. It isn’t about telling you how to fight your fights. The tone should be one of acceptance and brotherhood, this isn’t the thread to call people beta for being weak.

Finally, a good way to reframe the shit to feel more motivated to overcome your shit is that after you explain it, rephrase it saying how you will take concrete measurable actions to conquer it. The difference between complaining about bad things, and committing to a concrete plan to overcome them is the difference between Beta and Alpha. Gentlemen, Own Your Shit.


For examples, see last week’s thread.