When we look at how MRP helps to build better men, we are usually thinking about lifting, sidebar and STFU. While these are all essential, I believe participation is of equal importance. How often do you see a post on r/askMRP that starts out like:

*Hey guys,

Been unplugging for 6 months, lifting 5×5 stronglifts, read NMMNG, WISNIFG and MMSLP, passing shit tests and she is starting to follow my lead quite nicely...*

They then proceed reveal their situation and puke the rest of the post out. Very quickly we realize that they haven't internalized the material. The community then calls them out on their bullshit. Usually followed by some serious DEER or not responding and possibly deleting the whole works.

Shit, even my first post qualifies to this scheme. I thought I would give it to everyone real honestly, explain that I've studied and waited to contribute, then asked a question about what to do about the way my wife flirts with BIL. The community tore me a new one and rightfully so. I was fuckin mad and butthurt. I was full of feelz. "How dare someone have the nerve to call my wife fat or think she is fucking my BIL!"

That's why I say you haven't started to unplug until you have posted something. Be it askMRP or OYS. Even if you post it to the main page (pro tip: newbs, don't do this) and get ripped up. Until you have fully exposed yourself to the locker room mentality of the sub, you're still plugged in.

I'm of the belief that the single most important thing that one needs in life is a solid frame. It's impossible to have a frame if you're an egotistical little bitch. If you can't handle what a group of men you will never meet have to say about you, how the fuck are you going to be able to keep face while debating with your boss? Let alone dealing with the antics of a bitchy woman whom you share a life?

For the first 6 months, I never missed an OYS. I took a lot of flack from guys on here too. At first it really pissed me off. But as time went on, it got to a point where I was making decisions of my own accord and owning them. Not saying the advice became unnecessary. Simply that I was able to take the criticism constructively and apply it to my situation as I seen fit. The solid frame I now possess is greatly attributed to the way this community trains you to understand your ego.

You don't eliminate an ego. It's part of your natural being. You do learn however, to keep it in check and never act on it's advice without diagnosing the information it's giving.

This is why laying it out with zero fears of how the community will take it is so important. I can't think of a better way to grow than having the very fabric of life you have built up ripped apart in front of your eyes by guys who are not only better than you, but what you are in fact striving to become.

So if you're a guy who is waiting til he thinks he somewhat has his shit together before he posts, go ahead and do it. You're not going to advance until you can learn to take criticism, kill your ego and internalize that your fucked up situation is totally your fault.

It's also a reminder for guys to be honest with themselves as they not only post, but comment as well. If you get called out on shit advice you're offering, chances are that the train of thought that's causing you to have this belief is a hindrance to your success.

Keep it real on here mother fuckers.