A few years ago I wrote a post on The Epic Test, and in that post I pointed out:

For those struggling with validation… Not a single time did I get encouragement from her. Not a single bit of praise. Not a mention of anything that would resemble a wife who is proud of or to be with her husband. Not a single comment on my physique, style, new haircut, sexual position, or attitude. Nothing.

And I still haven’t heard her say a nice thing once about any of my changes.

Well guys, I'm back to report on this a few years later. Notably, I've spent the last few weeks being observant and calibrating whether I just don't notice the compliments or praise - or whether they do not exist at all.

I'm here to tell you all that when you reach what YOU believe to be high value - where your woman is absolutely sure of your value through sustained shit testing over time and sustained improvement within your life, and more importantly YOU believe this as well - and you both know that you've outpaced your woman to a point where you'll never be "caught"....

For the longest time I thought this was some kind of marathon shit test where she wouldn't dare recognize the obvious gap that's developed, for fear of exposing her ego. That's just not true. But the truth is that it isn't a shit test. It's just how a lot of women operate.

For some of us, you will never get a compliment or realize they exist.

You don't need them.

You know. And if you don't? Well, I guess this is a valuable test for you afterall until you do know.

From u/Ragnar_Daneskjold:

... just fucking BELIEVE that she does. And realize she might never say it. My wife gives me affirming words and expressions of I want you and I miss you all the time. Horns has said on multiple occasions that he go this 0 times and maybe doesn't even get it still. Your wife might never verbally admit that she misses you and she might never admit that she likes filling her mouth with your cock.

For the first time in a while I heard "I miss you" and "I need you" the other day, which prompted me to finally write this post. But this is rare for me to hear outright, and it's only because my wife is out of town dealing with some shit.

Rather most of the time the compliments turn into a some solipsistic inquiry, a passive-dread induced baby shit-test in the form of "oh, where are you planning on going today?" when she notices me looking good. Not a mention of "I like that shirt" or "You smell good". None. Meanwhile after I exit the house I receive compliments from random strangers or friends about particulars. But my woman? Never. Why?

Because I don't need it.

Because I know.

It's wasted energy for a woman to compliment a man who already knows whatever praising womanese that's about to exit her mouth is... frankly, worthless to him. He is his own judge, and so anything she could say is worthless. He should already know.

I mean seriously guys, if you're expecting your woman to dote, compliment, praise and shower you with ego-boosting language... if you're already a highly valuable dude.... it should mean nothing to you. Is it nice? Sure. But does it add value? No.

You know what does add value though? Action. So while you may be missing those lovely words of affirmation from mommy, what you'll get instead is a woman who adds value in a way that she knows how to... with a sloppy blowjob, dripping pussy, and come fuck me eyes.

Next time, watch what she does - not what she says - and I guarantee you that if you're hanging onto the thought and desire for her to shower you with words of affirmation - well dude, if you need that, it's going to be come at the cost of a warm, wet dripping pussy.

So sack up and realize that even if you do hear praise from her, it's worthless.

A man is his only judge, and his own mental point of origin. Either you get it, or you don't.