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Pulp Fiction

November 23, 2016
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Happy Thanksgiving gentlemen. Just wanted to share some thoughts, observations, and some minor successes with the community. Been on MRP for a little while now; not long enough to consider myself versed or educated but I am beginning to internalize what I find to be the cornerstone of my frame. Three-part post: Lifting, Observations, a taste of Success

Lifting

Lifting HEAVY has been the most central aspect of improvement for me. That positive energy generated from the gym feeds into every other aspect of my life. I operate at high energy so when I was being a fat fuck, that unspent energy was manifesting itself as anger that I blamed solely on my Dead Bedroom – the anger was actually from my lack direction. I started lifting again about 8 months ago and didn’t see any change in myself (internally/externally) for the first 3 months. Lifting HEAVY is what makes the difference. I had a bad case of ‘fuck-around-itis.” Then I read this and it changed everything.

Lifting heavy has done a few things for me: (aside from dramatically improving appearance)

  • It drastically increases testosterone production

      o    I work with women 40 hrs. a week and then come home to 2 girls. Without generating T at the gym I was well on my way to growing a vagina myself.
  • I’m too tired to fight

     o  Shutting the fuck up is exponentially easier when you’ve worked yourself to exhaustion. Day 1 of heavy squats I was shit tested and I remember thinking to myself “I can’t feel my legs; what makes her think I give a shit about the table cloth being wrinkled?” So I shut the fuck up and an hour later she’s telling me how hot I looked squatting ‘that much weight’ (we go to the same gym at lunch. I need to change my schedule but right now this is what works)
  • It makes you feel like a man

     o  I planned my work and worked my plan. Once I started doing that at the gym, it began to carry over into other areas in my life. The plans I make at home aren’t nearly as daunting as those first few weeks of heavy lifts.    o  It provided me with a frame that I never had before. Failing and being buried in the power rack with 275 on your back makes you stronger mentally, regardless of what onlookers may think.

The sad state of Dads

“They just change when they have kids”

I’ve been completely enamored by the Red Pill truths and I relish talking to other men who have kids because I can learn from them. As we know, most men are not on the journey we are on. They’re plugged-in, unhappy, close-minded, anger-filled, and unequivocally averse to change. These are the same guys that will tell you “Oh they (women) just change when they have kids.”

I accepted that as a universal truth and there was nothing I could do to bring back that fun loving girl I once knew. Only recently have I had this realization:

YOU’RE GOD DAMN RIGHT THEY CHANGE. You think you’re scared of this baby? Try being her.

I was so wrapped up in feeling bad for myself because while all of my friends were out partying I was changing diapers and fighting with this girl who wasn’t attracted to me. In this weak ass mindset, I couldn’t be a fucking leader; I could merely do what I thought SHE would want me to do. Again, principal to her utter disgust for me. IMHO, a new Mother changes because now she requires MORE LEADERSHIP than ever before. As a new Dad I missed a golden opportunity to lead my woman which allowed her to double down on her post-partum issues. She is a reflection of me, and my fat depressed state was not inspiring positive change in her. You guys remember my post about her Lupus and RA? Well I listened, and immersed myself in a diet, yoga, and daily stretching – all of which are led by me and all of which radically lessen the pain she feels.

Women don’t become these bitter, miserable, malcontents the second they give birth. But when you don’t display leadership, that burden defaults to her because she’s stronger than you. You want your girl to resent you? The fast track to that is through avoidance of your leadership responsibility – she will fucking despise you.

Just a taste

I’m writing this post because I have finally seen moderate success through all of the guidance this community has provided me. As of last Saturday (my birthday), I hadn’t sex in 15 months.

She kept bringing up sex but I avoided playing into because after 15 months of no play getting my hopes up wasn’t going to bode well for me.

My birthday comes and goes and I didn’t get laid. BP me wanted to be mad, lash out, and go fuck a fatty. Sunday comes; I stayed strong and didn’t hold it against her – withdrew some attention but was still light and playful.

Well you know what that got me? Laid. The baby went down for a nap and she jumped my bones. I was fully anticipating some obligatory, empty, and effortless birthday sex. I kept telling myself “If it’s empty – end it.” It wasn’t because I brought the vim & vigor – playing on that leadership role. She was way into it and that made me fearful of premature ejaculation. But I thought of NMMNG and I was only concerned with what felt good to me. Her moans and shakes were hers not mine. With this mindset we both had a fulfilling experience. After we finished up, she comes back from the bathroom with some waterworks. I just hugged her and I told her I was here to listen. She begins apologizing profusely. Something along the lines of “I’m so sorry I wasted more than a year of our relationship. I was so afraid of having sex and I made things so hard for us over nothing. I promise I will never do that to you again. I feel so much better about everything; I’m so happy, yada, yada.”

As I kept my mouth shut and just hugged her, I’m thinking to myself “Does she really think this is her fault?” I’ve come to the conclusion that I was caught so off guard because she was in my frame.

I’ve got to keep my foot on the gas now. Going from a 15-month dead bedroom to having sex every day since Sunday is a major accomplishment for me but it is not the goal. I have to remind myself of this multiple times a day because already I can feel the BP urge to rest on my laurels. Fuck me sideways with a lunch box; the conditioning is strong.

“You fucked her up – you fucking deal with it”

I didn’t want to breath CPR into my sex life – I wanted to Pulp Fiction style adrenaline shot to the heart of my sex life. That scene actually embodies so many of our situations. My relationship was dying right in front of me, and I’m shouting in a panic for the fucking magic marker. Well, ironically enough, the magic marker is red (the MRP) and the only person who can drive that adrenaline shot into the heart is ME.

I’m new and my credibility is lacking but I hope this helps at least one of you out there. Go forth, be strong, and become better every day. Lead your families through the difficult holiday season. You will be forever internally rewarded for your efforts. Don’t let off the gas – let ‘er eat. There's a lot more work to do.

Respectfully,

Scuba

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Title Pulp Fiction
Author Scubastyles
Upvotes 30
Comments 31
Date November 23, 2016 5:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/MarriedRedPill
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[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

This is a good field report. I would add some advice, now that the dead bedroom has been broken, do not fail to initiate at every opportunity and do not get butt hurt if she turns you down. I feel like breaking a dead bedroom permanently is similar to selling. If "no" hurts your feelings you will just become withdrawn and timid as a defense mechanism for your ego. Just keep going for it in every way you can imagine (be subtle sometimes, aggressive others, etc) but do not wait for her to initiate anymore like she did on Sunday. Own that vagina, it's just a pink wet hole God made for your pleasure.

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Always be closing.

[–]BobbyPeruMRP Approved0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This sums it up ABC

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

recommend any reading material on this?

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's a proactive mindset as much as anything. ABC is often tied to the sales profession, but the analogy carries over to male sexual strategy.

Most of the Sidebar game materials, and Dale Carnegie are good starters. If you really want to grab the issue by the pussy, Donald Trump's book "Art of the Deal" is relevant to the refuse to lose attitude.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

No. We are talking about having sex with your wife. Do not read a sales book about it. Just go for it and do not get your feelings hurt if you get shut down.

I WOULD recommend Game, Day Game, and The Natural depending on where you are in your levels of Dread. Just knowing you can close on new pussy if you so chose will change your paradigm significantly.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man. Ego definitely not completely deflated. Working on that though, trying to stay above 'thought' in response to denial has helped

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations, man. Looks like you're on a good track. What's your plan for not getting complacent?

Also, 15 months? I got a couple hard no's for the first time in months and I'm tempted to research divorce attorneys. You've got some stamina, dude

[–]innominating0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You know, I'm glad you asked because I hadn't given it thought. But shooting from the hip - to avoid complacency I'll keep lifting, leading, and reading. I'll report back when I have more ground to stand on

Yea it's been a long year for me my friend. But I only had myself to blame and that's why I've chosen to tough it out. Had I left, I wouldn't have seen my daughter as much as I would deem necessary to be the influence she needs. For the first 6-8 months i was just going through the motions and attributed it to post partum stuff. Once I learned that this situation was my fault, I just couldn't leave unfinished business.

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'll keep lifting, leading, and reading

All you really need to do

[–][deleted] 3 points3 points | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think you found the solution-- you stopped initiating every day. Now, you may be some testosterone-laden dick monster, but I get tired of it every day. Initiate when you want and not because you want quantity. I also find kino-ing for a couple of days leaves her in more suspense and makes quality better when we finally do it.

[–]red_blue_and_hot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you need to add some variety.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Kinda hard to follow my man but it seems like you're way further along than me.

Shit, I need updates from you! Ive only had three sexually successful days

But seriously, you can PM me if you need someone to bounce shit off of. Fuck it, let's go to the Looney bin together

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks for the uplifting field report Scuba. SO many truths in here that it almost brings a tear to the eye. I paid particular attention to the part where you just decided that you being happy was the most important part of you having sex for the first time in 15 months. I am not a psychiatrist but it just floors me how much throwing the wife a bone fixes a lot of her problems.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks bogey. The truths you mentioned have just recently begun to click with me. I can see the intricacies and nuances work - finally work for me and not against me.

The bone I threw her has made her a way better first mate as of late. We're finally sailing in the same direction.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I’m new and my credibility is lacking

Post was fine, fuck this disclaimer just say your piece and let the reception tell you how you did. Being new isn't a free pass.

Your words speak for themselves.

With all of that said, remember to enjoy the ride brother.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Truth. I still seek validation. You the man TFA

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We're all men here.

[–]gettingmymojobackMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations on breaking the 15 month drought man! I had a few 5-6 month droughts myself after our youngest was born, but I was never able to just wait it out like you. There's no way I would be able to have that kind of willpower.

As suggested just keep your foot on the gas, keep being happy and remaining OI on how she reacts to your initiation, give her the opportunity to say no, not seeking her permission to say yes. Assume the sale has already been made.

Keep doing what your doing and you may end up surprised that initiating becomes the norm for her as well.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man. I dont know if it's been will power or just being a pussy for a long time.

Thanks for that tip. I tried it tonight and didn't get laid but still acting and feeling as if the deal is already sealed took any angst of possible denial away.

[–]innominating0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Way to go, brother. Never let up.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

She kept bringing up sex but I avoided playing into

Part of leadership is leading her into sex. I think you held onto that Ace a bit long.

Definitely read up on Kino and Seduction and Instigation, Isolation, Escalation and start seducing this woman. She is "bringing it up" is the way women initiate so she is likely to be very receptive.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dually noted. Now that the cats out of the bag, I need to diversify my tool belt. On the hunt for material

[–]Atticus_Crowley0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Can you elaborate on what she meant on being afraid to have sex?

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You'd have to ask her. I used to beg for that answer; it ultimately led me here. Not sure if it was because she got pregnant after 3 months of dating or she was just saying the thought of sex with me was gross and scary. Probably the latter

[–]AechzenMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Awesome FR.

You have the patience and wisdom of Solomon. I know for a fact that I couldn't have waited out 15 months without getting some strange. Jesus.

Your description of failing on 275 squat is perfect. I'm squatting heavy and of all the lifting I've done in the last year, it's the hardest thing I'm doing. Totally wipes me out. I've started falling asleep on the couch sometimes.

I feel like dads of daughters get twice as much benefit of learning Amused Mastery and especially reading Rational Male and learning how feelz work. Understanding the emotional life of a woman explains so much about why things are the way they are.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks man. Any perceived patience or wisdom was established through reading here though. I was a whiney bitch.

I love squats and dead lifts because I swear shit tests are easier after those lifts. So easy that they've turned to the occasional comfort test and I fucking botch them.

Funny you say that about AM and daughters. If my daughter is fussing I'll tease and mock her; 9/10 times she ends up laughing and the demeanor changes. It's crazy to see that dynamic in something I created.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You've come a long way from the swing set. Good deal.

[–]Scubastyles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I appreciate it. I was indeed pathetic

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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