I posted a similar question in asktrp but I also wanted to post here because im in a 10yr LTR and a lot of you guys have helped me tremendously.

Just for some background, im 30 and my gf is 25 and we've been living together for the past 4 years. I pay for everything. In the fall of last year I realized I wasn't happy in my relationship because I wasn't getting enough sex..etc. so I decided to communicate that to my gf. we had a long talk and she agreed that she would put out more. A week later I found TRP and realized I've spent the last 8 or 9 years fucking up, including trying to communicate openly with her about my feelings.

Since last October I have been lifting, getting out more, being stoic, and trying to do all the other things a RP man is supposed to do. she has been more sexual but I can still tell it's only sex so that I won't break up with her. Whenever she turns me down for sex she always asks "are you going to break with me?" I've been good with outcome independence but im never really sure how to respond. I don't want to say "no, I won't leave you" but I can't think of anything else to say.

Anyway, she has started to notice that this new me won't just go away if she puts out a few more times a week for a couple of weeks. She's been talking about trying to be more sexual etc... while I've just been working on making myself a better and more attractive person. So the other day she pulls out a "sex coupon" from this pack she bought after one of our "not enough sex" talks 3 or 4 years ago that have never been used since, and left it out for me to find.

My question is how should I go about this coupon. On one hand I don't want to blow off a genuine effort from her to be more sexy and fun, but I don't want to play into a forced effort to keep me just happy enough that I don't kick her out, and I don't think using a coupon for sex is very "alpha". Should I keep the coupon and try to have some fun with it and reward her for trying, should I just throw it out and never mention it again, or openly yell her I don't need a coupon to get laid.

Thanks for hearing me out and any feedback you can give would be appreciated. Bonus points if someone has a good response when she asks if I'll dump her when she turns me down for sex.