There is a tremendous amount of power in sexual desire. In the quote below, Napoleon Hill discusses the lengths to which men will go for sex, and the concept behind Sex Transmutation. I'm sure we all have our own stories about what we've done to get laid. Buy me a beer sometime and ask me about the cheerleader in college.

Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires.

When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches.

The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will-power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot, and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of man. If not given this form of outlet, through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels.

A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but eventually, it will force an outlet. The same is true of the emotion of sex. It may be submerged and controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.

-Napoleon Hill - Think And Grow Rich

In my last post, I wrote about getting comfortable with being alone. One of the biggest benefits of that practice is that it gives you the opportunity to learn to control your sexual energy.

Taking Back Your Sexual Energy

You've probably read about people who quit masturbating and watching porn and the changes they experience. They've stumbled on the beginnings of the most powerful force on the planet...harnessed sexual energy.

The vast unthinking universe uses sex for one reason: reproduction. Nature fucks with reckless abandon to make more nature. You're a mammal; your natural state is to fuck all the time to make more mammals. If you didn't have a mind and consciousness, this is all your life would be. A relentless pursuit of sex. Even food would exist only to fuel you towards this end.

How far off from this state of the mindless pursuit of your next orgasm is your life right now? Or, put more plainly, how close are you to treating your sexuality the same way a rabbit does?

If you're married, you've already put shackles on your sexual energy. But most married men, especially those who are still plugged in, spend most of their sexual energy trying to figure out how to fuck their wife or draining their balls while watching porn when they don't get it.

A Less Worthy Outlet

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least. - Rollo Tomassi

I doubt that anyone here will argue with the assertion that women hold most of the power in today's society, in most relationships and social settings.

I believe that this is because, as Western society has become less religious and less restrained, the animal nature of men's sexuality has been unleashed. Men have always wanted lots of sex, but it wasn't available because morality restrained it, porn was mostly unavailable, and women were far more reserved.

Today, we have sexual women flaunted in front of us everywhere we go, and women are far less restricted by morality and society. Porn is everywhere. We can have sex anytime we want. If not with a woman, with ourselves. Its like we're just animals in the wild, but without the restraint of needing a partner.

We've moved thousands of years backwards on the spectrum of controlled sexual energy in just a few decades. Great for draining your balls, but is it really best for your masculinity and your accomplishments?

I think that men, by pursuing sex with reckless abandon as it became more available, gave up our power in romantic relationships that our restrained sexuality gave us. We had the natural power in relationships when women depended on us for their very lives. Now, we depend on them, in person or in porn, for our next orgasm.

Reclaiming Our Power

I'm not about to argue for the return of a highly moralistic society that restricts sexuality with heaps of guilt and shame.

What I am arguing for is that men who want to reclaim our power in society and relationships need to reclaim control over their sexuality.

We need to practice what Napoleon Hill calls "Sex Transmutation." The harnessing of unexpressed sexual energy and its use for creative and productive pursuits.

In other words, it is time that men take control of our sex drive, and put that energy to use in creative pursuits, rather than seeking solely physical release with unworthy sexual outlets, be they cold wives or hot porn stars.

What might this look like? Heading to the gym after a sexual denial is one concept with which we are all familiar.

But what about your other hobbies? I love lifting and getting strong, but there's only so much iron I can pump before I'm as dizzy as a co-ed after her third Cosby cocktail.

The first step towards using sex transmutation is learning to channel that "I'd jump over the Grand Canyon to fuck that girl" animalistic motivation into other physical pursuits. Whether its the gym, a creative hobby like woodworking, music, or art, or another productive activity, tap into that energy and put it to work for you.

The true masters, the men amongst men, take this to one step further. They realize the power of their sexual energy and what it does for them in their non-sexual lives. They own their sexuality, and they are protective of their sexual energy. Not everyone is worthy of receiving their sexual energy, because it serves a greater purpose in their lives.

Without paraphrasing the entire eleventh chapter of Think and Grow Rich, suffice it to say that the most powerful and successful men in the world are the ones who have intense sexual drives, but who have learned how to redirect this energy rather than wasting it.

How To Redirect

This process, though not difficult in theory, requires a lot of will power for the man who has conditioned himself to empty his balls at the first sign of a sexual urge.

Sex Transmutation requires restraint, but the benefits are significant.

Here is the process I have used successfully to further my life for several years. Much of my personal and financial success can be attributed to the process I outline below.

1. Stop masturbating. Chances are, you've spent most of your life emptying yourself of every sexual urge you've had. You need this sexual energy inside of you if you plan to harness it. Your greatest accomplishments will be fueled by this energy. Don't rinse them down the shower drain. They don't need to be emptied into a condom or the throat of an obligated or unworthy partner either. This takes self control. Get some.

2. Get used to the feeling. If you've never gone more than a few days without an orgasm, this is going to be a huge change. Get used to this feeling. You need to let yourself feel your sexual urges without acting on them.

3. Harness the urge. When you get the urge to masturbate, spend that time in a meditative state instead. Close your eyes and pay attention to the feeling. It'll feel like there is electricity surging through your body. Visualize yourself taking this feeling and forcing it into a container too small to hold it. This same process can be used after a "hard no" or other sexual rejection. In time, you will learn to capture sexual energy from all sorts of interactions, from sexual urges to casual flirtation.

4. Release the pressure. After you've done this a few times, you'll begin to feel the pressure of having this energy bottled up. Learning to use it in other pursuits is the next step, but it's not as easy as it sounds. I recommend starting with small things, like washing the dishes or a small project of some kind. To put it to use effectively, first prepare your project, to the point of being ready to begin. Then, just as you start the activity, picture this sexual energy that is pressurized in that little container, and let it explode into your body. Imagine the electricity coming out of the bottle with incredible pressure, all of your single minded sexual creativity and power being directed into focused action.

5. Reload. As you begin to experience the incredible power that this Sex Transmutation gives you, you'll begin injecting it into the most important parts of your life. You'll find that this energy gets used up as you go, and you'll want to keep this resevoir filled. This is where game, teasing, and flirting will begin to take on new meaning. Women, and your pursuit of them, will be for your own selfish purposes. This puts you in control of your sexuality and makes you immeasurably more attractive to women.

If you've been looking for help with outcome independence, with maintaining frame, with improving performance at the gym, or any other creative or physical pursuit, try putting your sexual energy to work for you. I'd love to hear some FR's about how it improves your sexual and creative lives.