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Text Game

May 29, 2021
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*Off the jump I am going to assume you are texting someone you are interested in - if you are not, it would be more worth you time just to schedule a time to hang out. That said, all of my advice will be for people texting others they are interested in and have chatted with for a decent amount of time. This is an introduction to texting game - so obviously most of you will still benefit from just avoiding texting except for coordination altogether. *

When it comes to texting, there are a few points to always strongly consider.

First, that you are only using texting as an accoutrement or an "appetizer" to having IRL conversation with you. If you are messaging a girl for more than, say, an hour, you are probably over doing it.

Second, if she isn't into you, age out the relationship with grace. Nothing is more unattractive than a "you ugly b!t$% message me back."

Third, this is a tool - on principle alone if you are messaging a girl conversationally, your IRL game likely is still too weak.

Here are some more axioms to think about:

1) Sandwich sexual energy with questions.

This gives them plausible deniability (encourages ASD) but also allows them to revel in your sexually charged conversation.

Ex:

Girl:

"Do you think this swimsuit would look good on me?"

Me:

"(A)It'd look better off, but I guess it looks okay on you. 😈😈😈

(B)Where are you getting it from, looks great!"


• If they respond to point (A) positively, then obviously that is good.

• If they "ignore" point (A) but respond to point (B) they enjoy the attention and don't want it to stop, but may not necessarily feel comfortable messaging back so forwardly.

• If they respond to point (A) negatively, or give a response that is strictly informational ex: "Macys" then pull back. They are either uninterested, offended, or annoyed - and at this point all you can do is salvage it, which is never worth it considering you can just find someone who is interested.

2) Recognize "Conversation Killers"

If the person you are chatting with is pushing the burden of carrying the interaction onto you, they are not interested in chatting at best. Worst, they are actively annoyed you are texting them and are just being polite.

You will notice the burden of conversation is on you if:

a) Most or all of their responses complete an answer without offering their own novel question or insight.

ex:

Me: What did you think of [movie title]?

Her: It was good, I really liked it.

Me: drop conversation

b) They respond strictly with information and no follow-up.

ex:

Me: What are you doing at 4:00pm?

Her: I'll be doing [xyz immovable thing.]

Me: drop conversation

c) Their messages are consistently between 1 to 3 words long.

ex:

Me: What do you think of (friend I introduced you to)

Her: He was nice.

Me: drop conversation

If they are doing these things, wait until they drop a CK on you, and just allow the chat to die. You only stand to lose face for being the one who doesn't recognize when someone doesn't want to chat with you.

3) Allow the natural ebb and flow of conversation to happen.

Forcing conversation is going to make you seem "dry". When conversation is engaging, ask questions beyond the scope of just "wbu". However, when a lull occurs accept it, wait until they give you a CK and peave the conversation for another day. Little is gained and much is risked from forcing texts with someone.

4) Questions to stay away from:

• "How are you?" - answers to this will provide little to no conversational value, and ultimately are a drain on the asker.

• "What's up?" - If asking as a genuine question rather than a passive response to a greeting. The responses to this are very limited, "NMU?" "Go to xyz place." "Chilling with xyz person." It's a blasé question with an even more laborious answer.

• "How do you feel?" OR "What's on your mind." 🤢🤮 Not even going to dignify this. Just don't do it.

This has helped me in dating exponentially, and with tweaking works with friendships as well.

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Title Text Game
Author Praexology
Upvotes 26
Comments 17
Date May 29, 2021 3:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/MarriedRedPill
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/text-game.774550
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[–]business----travel 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is why we say texting is logistics only.

[–]weakandsensitive 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Quality FR. The value in this is there's theory that others can go and field test.

[–]ilove702 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Meet irl in 5 text or less or next. Follow that rule religiously and you are in.

[–]thisisme0007 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What the hell is this shit and why is it in MRP? There is literally nothing in here that is going to help a guy who's wife won't fuck him.

If you are messaging a girl for more than, say, an hour, you are probably over doing it.

I can accept that covid and dating app culture might warrant bending the idea that 'texting is for logisitics only' but this is just plain stupid.

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[–]AlohaMaui808Grinding / Dreadful '20 11 points12 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

If you can't think of anything interesting to talk about from your life or to ask her about, you should probably be more focused on self improvement

[–]HornsOfApathyMRP MODERATOR 😃 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

You know I fucking hate that term. Self improvement.

Such a scarcity mindset you fucking twats.

[–]AlohaMaui808Grinding / Dreadful '20 7 points8 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I must have not been paying attention, what about that phrase do you hate?

What I think of when using language like "self improvement" is that its kind of like trying to explain color to a man who had never opened his eyes (never seen anything) and doesn't want to believe color or sight are possible.

If he can't hear it smell it feel it or taste it, how do you get through to him? He has to get to the point on his own where he can at least accept that sight is a possibility before you can explain why it would be amazing for him to just open his eyes.

This is a bit beyond texting game but fuck it I'm feeling reflective.

I remember when I first started plating. My beta habits at the time I can look back on and clearly see where I lost the girls I didn't end up fucking. My experiments with having an abundance mindset and being The Prize I can look back on and see where I wasn't calibrated (went overboard, not enough rapport established, or wasn't congruent, etc) and "lost" girls too. And I can see where and when I was in their Frame and when I started having my own, to when I finally started inviting girls into mine. And my thoughts at that time before my Frame matured enough had the scarcity mindset that this above written paragraph demonstrates.

The great thing about truly having abundance (which I developed over the first several months of plating) is that none of that really mattered (beta habits, calibrating, etc), there were plenty of other decent women out there waiting for a man with his shit together to give them a shot, and the more time I spent getting my shit together, the more what really mattered (my own congruence and purpose) came into focus. It just made everything so much easier. Women who weren't ready to get with my program quickly stopped being spin because they didn't keep themselves spinning with the amount of time and Presence I was willing to give them at whatever stage we were at. It was a simple equation. This is where I'm at. You may want X or y or z, but this is where I am, and I move at my pace or not at all.

And kind of like with Tyred_Biggums, there has been one particularly feminine woman who has really added value to my life in ways besides the basics like sex and meals. She's actually the closest thing to a "Red Pill Woman" I've come across, has read David Deita and watched and absorbed some of his student's content. The dynamic is polarized in a healthy way that I've never experienced, and the part that's strangest to me is that I led us to where we are. She choose to stay on the boat, but I charted the course into waters unknown to me and she followed. That's at once scary and elevating. Someone who is not my child has placed utter trust in my ability to lead us to mutual prosperity and fulfillment, through the elevation of my purpose and Mission.

A year ago, I never could have imagined being where I am as a man. I feel more fulfilled in every part of my life now than I ever did before all my "self improvement" even during the first few years of my marriage when everything was "perfect"

But it started with working on me. It will continue forever with working on me. I don't know if this girl will end up being a long term life partner or not, but it doesn't matter. I'm still at the place of "this is where I'm at, you may want X y or z but this is where I am, and I move at my pace."

[–]HornsOfApathyMRP MODERATOR 😃 10 points11 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Self improvement implies there is something wrong with you.

When you were sailing uncharted seas did you think about self improvement? No. Because if you do, if you flinch, you sink.

It's not self improvement. It's called doing. There isn't shit to improve. Just shit to do.

[–]AlohaMaui808Grinding / Dreadful '20 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yep, that's a better way of phrasing it. Thanks Horns

[–]HornsOfApathyMRP MODERATOR 😃 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Some of you soon to be vets need an ass kicking soon. I've been lazy. Shit like this irks me to see someone so advanced use platitude terms that are wrong.

We don't do self improvement here.

Everything you already need to do is known, and if you don't know what to do, you're a fucking idiot.

[–]ImNotSlashGrinding 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

you're a fucking idiot.

Of course we are. That's how we ended up here to begin with.

What have you learned since you first came here that you haven't thought, "no shit!"' Because, for me, a lot of this has been common sense. Practicing it, however, is another issue. Realizing it is the key to the game.

[–]BigBoiBahmani 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you, HOA. Similarly I also hate the term "Sacrifice". You didn't sacrifice anything you made a decision.

Such terms seem to represent some internal feud a man has with himself. As if not forgiving himself for not being focused on himself earlier. And still being angry at himself because he let the "matrix" play him and waste his time.

It's all bridge under the water fellas. Would it have been better if you had started to focus on yourself earlier? I don't care. Maybe. It doesn't matter. You have work to do, and that's it. Stop whining about it, even with yourself.

[–]ItsDantesWorld 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey man. I'm young so cut me a little slack (22)

There are things to do. But we can do them better.

Is that not improving self?

Lift is something I gotta do. But I can lift heavier. So I improved what my self is doing.

Im doing what I gotta do but better.

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[–]Tyred_BiggumsMRP APPROVED - anal on 2nd date 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Good morning, I had the craziest dream last night and you were in it... anyhow how are you?”

Jesus. This is why we tell you retards that texting is only for logistics. You are no fun.

[–]AlohaMaui808Grinding / Dreadful '20 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A “good morning, how are you?” Text is normal

For you

hard to pivot

Yes, I imagine it would be difficult for you to maintain attraction while pivoting from Beta supplication to Seeking validation

My original conclusion has been thoroughly reinforced by your response - you aren't ready or calibrated for effective texting game.

Get back to the basics (or start):

Lift

Read

STFU

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