Dread Level 3: Build a life apart from your wife.
I've been on this RP odyssey for three years now and am finally reading BPP's book, which is very enjoyable. Now, the chapter on dread level 3 is about two pages. This seems to jive with the amount of coverage this topic gets in these subreddits at large. Comparatively we spend much more time talking about lifting, leading, shit tests, comfort tests, stoicism, game, being fun, emotional control, sex, finances and every other related topic.
Level 3 is probably taken for granted because even most blue pillers are already doing it to some extent. Hunting trips, biking, hiking, playing in a band, going to bars, teaching classes, playing softball, video games, magic the gathering, whatever.
Level 3 must not be overlooked. True dread involves two ingredients: capability and opportunity. Many BP guys have opportunity by doing the things they normally do in life. They just lack the capability. It's "safe" for them to be out in the world because their wives know nobody finds them attractive with their bald spots, slight gut, cargo shorts, and dad sneakers. The Dread fails to ignite.
Conversely, the red piller who is excelling at dread levels 1, 2, 4, and 5 is very attractive: he's jacked, leading the family, in total control of his emotions, dressed to the nines. There is no doubt about his capability to pull women. But if he's slacking on level 3, he lacks the other major ingredient of dread. He has no good opportunity and his wife knows it. He is an alpha on lockdown. The Dread fails to ignite.
Capability + Opportunity = Dread
Dread levels 1, 2, 4 and 5 build capability
Dread level 3 is opportunity
You can dick around with the exact ratio of 1, 2, 4 and 5 and the equation still holds. But without 3 it doesn't "obtain." Does not compute.
Being attractive is not the end state. Sex will improve in quality because of attraction. Rejections will be less because of attraction. Behavior will improve. Your home will run like a well oiled machine. You will have fun. But without the ignition of fully realized dread, animalistic desire will not materialize.
A lion must wander in the jungle if he is to truly be king.
When you first start becoming attractive, you wife's hamster will do you a huge favor and invent some imaginary opportunity for you. She will hallucinate a jungle full of new Oneitises growing from the trees. Fully realized dread will happen for a while, and you will think you've made it. But eventually without continued, solid DL 3 game she will calm down and realize that it was a false alarm. He may be a lion now, the Family Alpha, but there's no danger that he'll leave. She will be legitimately happy, freed from the resentment of having a pathetic bluepilled husband. But that base instinct to chase and cage a king will be untapped.
Your job may be an asset here. I know realtors who seem to do very well because they escort women through vacant houses all day. Their social media is active and full of female "clients" who comment on their posts. If your job requires you to travel out of town, that is also obviously big opportunity.
My job is not like this. My wife has hamstered my job away as "safe" because it's "just a bunch of nerdy men in cubicles." It's not really, but in her mind that's how it is and that's all that matters.
The gym started off as a good source of dread, and maybe still is sometimes, but it's also now "safe" simply because it's so routine and hamstered as "just a bunch of sweaty men."
To succeed in Level 3 you must answer the question: What kinds of things would you be doing if you were single? How would you be meeting new people? Where would you go? What would you do?
You can build an awesome train, but it only goes so far without burning high grade DL 3.