A recent comment thread hit a nerve with me. The OP made a comment about tunnel vision. I just got done talking about this last night in the dojo. How tunnel vision can easily overcome you and change how you see things. It's not new really, it's a fairly well taught concept these days, 10 years ago not so much.

There are several posts in AskMRP from guys who have severe tunnel vision. They are stuck in their woman’s frame. They are hell bent on something, what is I don’t know…don’t think they do either. Maybe proving to themselves they are men. Getting fucked, getting the respect they think they deserve. All that’s bullshit. Those are the symptoms to the problems. The problem is that you are weak, and lack any sort of vision for yourself and your life.

MRP doesn’t make it easy on you. Not at all. It wants to you to 40 things are all at once. Not to mention you have a sparring partner who is changing the rules on you every day…or so it seems. What you really need to do is gain control again and show her that rules are bullshit and don’t apply to you. Then hand her a new rulebook.

So you better get to work right now.

Consider this though. You will develop tunnel vision. It happens. In the world of self defense, and well….warfare in general: Tunnel Vision kills. LTC(ret) Grossman has studied this phenomenon extensively. I recommend his book ON KILLING and anything he has done on “killology”. Great mindset stuff there. tunnel vision is a process where a soldier gets fixated on his target to such a degree he fails to see the developing battlefield, and then he is taken out by someone on the flank or the grenade that just flew over head.. It’s one reason why leaders are not supposed to get engaged in the near fights. They are supposed to be head up managing the fight. Troops, cops are taught now to fire a few shots, look around, reassess. This is also being taught in civilian tactical classes.

In self defense we teach it because getting into a “fist fight” you are not going to see the haymaker, kicks…..anything else like that. In fact tunnel vision happens before the first fist flies. You get caught up in the money dance, the whole display of dominance. How dare this fuck disrespect you like that. Chest bump, push around, throw some insults, dares, challenges..yadda yada yadda. You are so wrapped up in it that you miss the body language, the precursors that something is about to go down. They are always there. The fist clenched and cocked just below eye line. The shoulder that turns ever so slightly to gain speed and power. The foot that slowly takes half a step backwards for more power and balance. You are literally too close to get perspective. And while you are caught up in the monkey dance of dominance....wham. You're hit.

The process is the same here. You are too close. You are so concerned about the monkey dance of male dominance that you don't see what your woman is telling your through her actions. It's really like two monkeys dancing. You are too wrapped up in the moment that you are missing the clues, the setups, and the opportunities. A good fighter can read the signs and signals. He can see the telegraph coming and be able to adapt to the flowing situation. Do you think MacGregor just goes in fists swinging? He has a plan and it plays to his strengths. He doesn’t let tunnel vision grab a hold of him and when it does he steps back. Reassess then adjust, go back in.

When kids spar each other they quickly develop patterns. They go through 3-4 options that have worked for them in the past and put them on repeat. The trick is to get a dynamic fighter that has a very large toolbox and throw one right after another without stopping nor repeating. Maybe even creates a few of his own. Often I will call out a kid's pattern. If he's good enough or I think he is. I will tell everyone his/her pattern. The watch them either sink or swim in the next bout. The idea is growth. Learn, adapt, overcome.

OK…I get it…we all do. Sex is a HUGE priority, but too many of you are focused on your near targets to such an extent that you have made them your long term objectives. Life is about one thing. Accomplishing your mission. You do it by achieving your long AND short term objectives. Sometimes the short ones are all on their own and have nothing to do with each other nor your life’s mission. The long term ones should always be about achieving your life’s mission. You need to create that synergy.

Get rid of that tunnel vision. Take a step back. Reassess, and for the fucks' sake laugh.

It’s all bullshit anyhow.