I've had way too many people ask this week what dominance is. Not just what it is, but what it feels like when you are exerting it, rather than LARPing it.
And for that I would have to ask a question: What's going through your mind when you get under the bar in order to attempt your new 1rm bench press? I bet you're thinking something like "I got this. I WANT this. I can feel the power I have. I can imagine each muscle engaging when I call for it. I got this. I know it. Unrack. Steady. Control. Explode. Let's do it."
And it's not your literally thinking all this, but rather envisioning it rapid fire in succession in order to manifest in real life what you want to happen by bringing this all together. You're bringing a reality to fruition.
Now...and I actually encourage everyone who wants to feel LARPed dominance to do this exercise next time you bench a 1 max rep if you have a home gym: Ask your wife to give you a spot.
And I want to you pay close attention to the thoughts that INFECT your mind when you walk to the bench with her, lay down, and get ready to unrack that bar. Because I guarantee they are NOT going to be the same as what I just wrote above. Even though im warning you that they wont. You cant help it.They are going to be filled with thoughts like:
"Does she think this is heavy?"
"What does she think about spotting me?"
"What if I fail in front of her?"
"Does she know that I'm thinking about her?"
And you will fail at that attempt. I guarantee it. Pay attention to those thoughts. And realize how they are EXACTLY how you feel in the bedroom:
"Does she like being thrown around?"
"Is she responding to me pulling her hair?"
"What if she says stop?"
"Does she know I'm thinking about her?"
And this is why the ACT of physical dominance in the bedroom, while it LOOKS like throwing your wife around, and pulling her hair, and having her suck your dick on her knees, is not the mark to strive for. It's simply what it looks like from an outside observer.
Just like you harnessing dominance is doing what you want to do with that bar, dominance in the bedroom is doing what you want to do with her. But more importantly, dominance is an attitude, not an action. The action is just the manifestation of it.
When you get to a point where you can get your wife to spot your 1rm and have 0 thoughts in your head about her...when you get to a point where you can smack your wife's ass and put a hand on her neck and have 0 thoughts in your head about her...thats dominance.
When we got back to the apartment is was so horny I couldn't control myself. I kissed her roughly and threw her down on the bed. To my surprise she didn't protest...Even though that night I provided horrible physical stimulation to the point it should have been painful, the psychological stimulation I provided was so good that it overrode the physical aspects.