Guys

Lots of crap tactical stuff lately. I suspect many of you read these, and many start writing, then do not post silly questions because you already know the answer. I’m talking to you: guys who are on the hard path already, and are seeing enough results to know what questions to ask and what not to. Rule of thumb: if your question is of a tactical /situational nature, chances are you already should know the answer or the answer is in the side bar reading materials. If you were to truly internalize those you wouldn’t be asking silly tactical questions.

So a few observations re sex:

  • The mindset shift you want to attain is that of rewarding her with your dick. She is such a good woman that she’s worthy of you. Play that role and that dynamic and her hamster will work overtime to please you. In and out of the bedroom.

  • Give her an orgasm or two before you come. This is crucial. As she gets close to coming, grab her face, tell her how amazing, sexy, slutty etc, she is. Ask her if she wants to cum. Tell her how much she needs you. Then tell her not yet. Play with her like she’s a toy to enjoy. You can do without her. But life with her is more enjoyable. Get to the point of rewarding her with sex with you : mentally and physically.

  • Learn to view sex that way: an after thought and a side effect of living a mission-focused life. It doesn’t matter if you have sex or not. Sex is like watching a movie, playing a game, watching a game, having a drink, relaxing, Netflix etc. It’s basically pure entertainment (and frankly a bit of fun art in my opinion when done well). It won’t deter you from what’s truly important to you in your life.

  • Talk to her as she cums telling her how she’s such an amazing woman and you’re now (as a result!) giving her your dick. “Release”/ allow her to orgasm when you want and after she waited for a bit and you’ve built enough anticipation. She exists to please you. Reinforce that dynamic. She earns your dick and her orgasms with you. You are generous and are giving this pleasure to her.

  • If it’s not enthusiastic sex, trick your mind to not want it. That’s what sex-satisfied means. And what we talk about around here. It’s very subtle, and you have to fake that state in case indeed you’ve suffered a dry patch. The moment you seam more eager, more horny, more needy, is the moment you’re a beta bitch. To your own damn self. She of course has a dog’s smell for that state. Just like she has for a true alpha, IDGAF, OI state. That’s what a high-value man is. That’s who you want to be. The longer you’ve been in a marriage where you’ve accepted sub par performance from yourself, in bed, from her - the harder it’s going to be to turn the ship around. The less slack you tolerate from the outset (in the lucky case you’ve found red pill early in your LTR/ marriage) the easier it will be to set the right frame for your relationship. To paraphrase Jocko/ Leif Babin “It’s not what you preach it’s what you tolerate. “

So go live your mission. Become someone worthy. Then have fun with your woman, when you need a break from your hard work of making a difference in the world. It’s that simple.