“A scorpion asks a frog to carry him over a river. The frog is afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, both would sink and the scorpion would drown. The frog then agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When asked why, the scorpion points out that this is its nature.
ASALT
The red pill initially is a tool to open up a man’s eyes to reality. It should be a jarring, yet challenging new perspective about the nature of women, women’s imperative, and how a man can become betaized in an LTR or be beta before a relationship by a lifetime of blue pill brainwashing.
However, that is just the beginning of the journey Focusing too much on the AWALT characteristics and less focus on one's self will keep the person in the anger phase and stunt growth.
Why do the seasoned guys constantly ask which sidebar readings OP has read?
Reading the sidebar, and applying it to your life is where the transformation happens, over time
Ok, there is an “and” in that statement, which implies it is a two part process. When practicing principles of the sidebar is attempted, the new man to MRP will find that there is an element of trial and error involved. In other words, experience, and learning from experience through self honesty, OYS, and listening to feedback of seasoned members (instead of DEERing), is a high-value process. It is not an overnight undertaking, and patience is necessary. Years of betaization do not come undone overnight. It requires a transformation of thought, and the sidebar contains the elements for that transformation
How many times do we get guys come on here spouting about how they read WISNIFG and NMMNG? These 2 are good starters, but often guys (for whatever reason), will read these 2 and go “Rambo.” Then, they come on here and try to get a bandaid or quick fix on how they screwed up royally. They have not internalized solid frame since the prerequisite work was not completed.
The sidebar should be read completely in order to get the 30,000 ft, big-picture view. The new guy should be focused on lifting and STFU until the entire sidebar is read and our new man has some practical and valuable experience.
TRP and MRP are not bandaids to give you advice on how to fix all the DEERing you did last night in a useless argument with your LTR or wife. If you actually take the time to read all of the sidebar and learn from your mistakes, you will find that all the answers really are in the sidebar. That way, you can come up with real personalized solutions for yourself instead of asking strangers on the internet.
Once again, the real answers come from internalizing the sidebar principles
Internalization of frame takes time. So, don’t try to put in a couple months of reading and then be a kid playing with dynamite. You will get blown up. Take your time. Be honest with yourself.
This is about fixing you and your personal journey, not about fixing your relationship. The sidebar is one of the biggest tools to get you there.
TL;DR: Don’t read 2 books and then go Rambo. Read the entire sidebar, practice it, and learn from it. Transformation doesn’t happen overnight- be patient, and get back on the horse if you mess up, and you will mess up.. But, messing up is part of learning.
Read the damn sidebar.
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