Why You Must Be Willing to Nuke Your Nuclear Family

Here's short version of this post:

Your wife holds a trump card you don’t want to admit she has, but you both know it. Take her card and burn it. Otherwise, you will fail.

That card?

Your nuclear family.

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Edit: Based on feedback here, I think it's important to say the following things as a disclaimer before you read this:

• The keyword in the title of this post is "WILLING".
  
• I'm not advocating pushing the button. Nor am I condoning it.
• If you aren't at least 6 months into your journey and past the anger phase, please save this post for later. You will blow shit up otherwise.
• This is MRP endgame. This is very advanced stuff. All of this is predicated on the fact that you've done the work and you're now a worthy and high-value man that isn't bullshitting himself in any area of his life.

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A long time ago somewhere along the line in your lizard brain you evolved to have an instinct to protect and serve your woman and children. The difference today is that this instinct (and great trait, I believe) has been manipulated to be used against you – and to prey on these masculine so that you give them from a place of neediness rather than abundance.

No better social programming that relies on your hard-wired evolutionary psychology than this: The nuclear family. It draws on your desire to protect and provide for those closest to you – at all costs. AT. ALL COSTS. But now, you likely approach this act of giving to keep your woman and children.

Only low value beta men do things to keep a woman.

High value men provide as a gift without covert contracts. Because they can gift through abundance.

From a new poster here, /u/DrBeaufort, he said this -

My internal dialogue was that I would normally never let someone treat me this way, but in this case my infant son and struggling wife needed my help, so I couldn't leave or set any boundaries. I felt trapped.

Most men do (and continue to) aspire to the idea of the Nuclear Family. Shitty parents? I’ll do better. Great parents? I want to do that too. It is programmed into our DNA to love, protect and provide security to women and our children. It's not wrong, it's just all the rules have changed.

Hypergamy is hard-wired into a woman's DNA. The desire to protect and serve their tribe is also wired into a strong masculine man’s DNA.

Cavemen would go out hunting and gathering to support their (notice the ownership?) cavewoman and raise their cavebabies. If she stopped doing her part by taking care of the kids and him, giving him easy access to sex, and keeping the cave tidy and meals cooked - he would kick her out and get a new cavewoman - because there would be a line of cavebitches outside his cave who are in line to be with a high value caveman that could hunt, gather and protect little cavewomen and cavebabies. This was how a man provided value and was a fair arrangement between the sexes. She would spend her entire youth learning the skills required to be a good cavewoman so she was valuable to a caveman. Conversely, the caveboy would spend his entire youth learning the skills required to be a valuable caveman and if he chose, to gift that to a cavewoman. The man had the power of choice. He was the gatekeeper to commitment.

Even with choice, the caveman was more likely to function higher in the dominance hierarchy by having a cavewoman to add value to his life. The women did not have a choice – as their skills were developed to amplify and enhance that of the man’s. Together they could rise up the dominance hierarchy where their odds of survival were higher with access to more resources. Men experienced freedom and challenge from the tribe. Women experienced protection, security and praise from the tribe. And so the bond was formed that allowed both of them to fulfill their deepest desires and fulfill a mutual cycle of gifting.

Until recently (1950 and 2nd wave feminism), that shit worked. It was the same caveman/cavewoman dynamic. Enter child support, government subsidies for women, and equality. Now a woman can freely pump out a few kids, stop doing her part as the cavewoman, become a cavebitch, and take half of her caveman's shit while being supported by all the other cavemen who pay taxes, AND continue to get half of his moose carcass every time he makes a kill… until her children can support themselves. And what prevents her from doing this? Nothing. Not even fucking another caveman!

So why would she keep giving access to sex? The first reason she'll do that is if you're that high-value caveman that's willing to say, "Look cavewoman. You ain't cutting it. I'm going to give you first shot here - but if shit doesn't change to meet my needs, I'm going to the line of cavebitches outside to get what I need. No hard feelings. And yeah, you'll probably get half of the caveshit and the moose I kill next week - but as you get older and less valuable to other cavemen, well... you'll be last in line at the next cave. Just look objectively at the line. So STFU or get in the back of the line behind all hotter and younger cavebitches waiting outside."

The second reason that you would have access to sex is because you have proven that you’re the highest value mate available. The muscular caveman from good stock who won the annual rock carrying contest last year against his other local cavemen and is respected by all the other cavemen. By proxy, it gives her the best mate and social status.

Women have always understood this at a subconscious level - but then enter 3rd wave feminism where women lie to each other so that they can let hypergamy run amok and level the playing field. "Oh my fellow cavebitch, listen. You don't need no caveman! You can take half his shit, set yourself up in your own cave and do you own thing for a while - other cavemen will be coming to your cave! They'll see how awesome you are. You can do anything a caveman can!"

Problem is, men admire other men for that type of behavior. We don't admire that in women. Women believe that since we admire that masculine direction of freedom that it will make them attractive to us. It doesn't - and is the huge feminist lie. We admire femininity, beauty, and a woman who supports us and the cavebabies we make as we explore that which is outside the cave – and secretly gushes at our 12-point buck we hauled in from the field that we proudly display on the wall. Everytime she sees it on the wall she is reminded that she fucked the winner.

Kind of the same reason nothing is ever good enough. Big house. Bigger house. Nice car. Nicer car. Big Buck. Bigger buck.

Why did you listen to this fucked up shit?

This is where the blue-pill comes in. Modern-Cavewomen^TM say to you: "Look, everything is going to be fine! Yeah, cavewomen are hard work. But if you just listen to what I need, and compromise, and take good care of ME, and give ME everything I WANT... ME... I mean WE.... can have an equal partner marriage and be happy. And if you decide you want to fuck other cavewomen - well that's just wrong! You're a not a good caveman for doing that! Now, come over here and let me suck your little cavedick."

How can you not see the manipulation in that?

How can you not see the solipsism in that?

Since when has being a fantastic man had anything to do with making her the prize?

Do you know what a high value caveman would do if he heard that shit? He'd nope the fuck out and get another cavewoman. In a matter of weeks the she would die, find another suitable protector and mate, or find a way to get Chad McCavetroll to throw her some food scraps for fucking him on the side of the cave, or somehow adopt caveman skills like hunting (which hold no value to a caveman) and adapt to living alone in a cave lonely as fuck with her 4 sabretooth cavecats.

Do see the pattern here with Modern-Cavewoman?

Your woman will become selfish and ungrateful for how many fields you plow and how great you look because in the back of your mind you always are trying to live up to her equal standard of being a “Good Caveman” and wouldn't dare fuck another cavewoman.

She LITERALLY has you BY THE BALLS.

Inevitably, we know this doesn't fulfill their hypergamous desire to fuck the winner in the long run. The entire focus is on her and controlling the outcomes - which is a masculine caveman strength. Not feminine.

Basically, this is a long way of explaining RP 101 Rational Male concepts to you (sidebar already dude).

Without changing your mental models, you're letting your woman know that all those cavebitches that will be lined up at your cave are off limits, which cancels out every need for her to do her part to complete the cycle required for mutual success. She doesn't have to fuck, clean, look pleasant with a soft demeanor, or cook because... why would a high value caveman turn down hot as fuck cavebitches who really desire to fuck him when at the same time, she is not giving him that same desire and doing her part?

Because deep down he's a cavefaggot.

And dread is ALWAYS meaningless and backfires on faggots.

Yeah, it’s waaay fucking backwards.

I mean, kind of.

Let's bring it all back full circle now. I wrote in this post:

She WANTS you to pass this test. She desires in the darkest parts of who she is as a woman for you to fucking crush this and make yourself a man of high value. This woman has likely been on your team all along.

And here's the big secret that I want to share with you, brother.

She WANTS you to be willing and able to NUKE it all.

Your woman wants you to be able to take your pick of the best cavebitches outside your cave waiting on you, but you still pick her. This signals to her that she is higher value than all those caveTHOTS, has better skills, is better in the cavebed, and makes her more worthy than any other woman out there. She doesn't even have to say anything. Even if the other cavebitches give her shit; maybe telling her they cook a better venison roast, or they can suck cavedick better, or they're prettier and younger, or have some kind of great value above and beyond what she can offer....

All she has to do is look at them, look at you, realize that this high value caveman is with her over them, and that's all the proof she needs to say: "Look cavebitches, whatever. Look what I have. Ya'll can fuck off - I've got the best and you don’t. How 'bout them caveapples?"

And every time you she secretly knows you’ll refuse to pick one of the other cavebitches because of some retarded bluepill indoctrination, she secretly feels less and less valuable to her hypergamous cavesisters and moves further down the dominance hierarchy where she has more unattractive options. But, if you don't need side-cavewoman because YOURS is doing her part very well – and you let her know with an acceptable amount of praise through your ACTIONS - she knows she's the most valuable woman in line. Period. Even Modern CavewomenTM derive their greatest sense of value in the world from this feeling.

Do you ever notice how happy women are to be on the arm of a high value man in public? Take a look next time you see one. They are beaming with feminine energy and light up a room. Because they are happy.

Otherwise, your woman feelz like her man isn't as valuable, and in turn, she holds no value either. That's the worst thing that can happen to her in this world, so her epic test either serves her by weeding you out - or making you high value. A side effect of this high value is that you then have your pick. She desires in the darkest parts of who she is to be your first pick.

Coming Full Circle

If you have worked yourself up the dread ladder and come to the FMOFY speech (also in the sidebar MMSLP by Athol Kay) then you likely understand the power of what that speech can do**.** Frankly, I think the FMOFY speech is bullshit. I think if you’ve worked yourself up that high onto the ladder and are forced or coerced to have that speech, you are still trying to negotiate desire. And who the fuck wants to negotiate desire by holding your wife and kids hostage? You want your wife to fuck you with crippling anxiety? I never did. I knew that at some point my woman was fucking to survive and I see the FMOFY speech as a retarded way to overtly declare “Fuck me, or you’ll suffer the loss of me.”

Weak. If she hasn’t figured out by then you’re a man who likes to fuck – and needs to fuck – then you’ve been fucking up all along anyways. Why go overt?

I’d rather change that mental model here. I don’t suggest the FMOFY speech, but the reasoning behind it is all the same.

Your woman wants you to not need her. She despises your neediness in every hidden corner of your mind and will prey on it. Only when you no longer need her or your nuclear little family will she understand that you have the power of choice and she can NO LONGER hold the power of the nuclear family hostage against you. Valuable men are always the gatekeepers of commitment, and she’s not valuable enough to commit to – even with all the new fucked up Marriage 2.0 rules. Now that, sir, is a statement to her ego.

She knows how much you have always dreamed of having a nuclear family with loving parents and children together. She feels through all this – and is reinforced by your actions and words. She feels through every fiber of your being that you love your children in a powerful way and wish to be a part of their lives.

But she also knows that the rules have changed in her favor**.** AWALT? Yes. Don’t think for a fucking second that they haven’t hamstered and questioned their security (along with their children) if you two split up. She knows it would suck, but she could probably milk you of enough resources to make everything “ok”. This is a game you cannot win.

So what to do?

Nothing is more powerful than a man that knows his own direction, is his own leader, and does not give a fuck what the world wants from him – but creates and takes what is his. That is freedom. That is direction. This is what a man does.

Everyday that she feels you not pursuing your core desires for freedom she knows that you are not being true to your core of masculinity and she still holds the trump card over all your passed shit tests.

Yes, you might be reading this and saying “Wow, Horns. You are really going fucking Rambo here.” If you read through my history you’ll see I was the least likely man here to go Rambo, yet, I know that when you have achieved Outcome Independence and become your own Mental Point of Origin – there is one final test that you have created for yourself since you were a young boy.

Can you live in this world and forsake everything just because you choose to be who you are? Can you nuke fucking everything so that you can make your own choices and not allow even your own children (who you love) prevent you from pursuing your deepest and most powerful core masculine desire of freedom? Are you willing to nuke it all so that you can pursue your rightfully desired passion for joy?

Or are you going to remain trapped?

This is the test you give yourself. If you cannot pass your own test, you will fail, and she will always use this to her advantage. It will be a small cloud looming over your head for the entirety of your life that you will try to ignore but she will always see. If you choose the idea of giving your children an intact family over your own happiness you will never succeed.

You know who I think did this? Jeff “Chad” Bezos. Richest motherfucker on the planet. Got ripped in the gym. Nuked it all because… well, I can only suspect – but let’s just presume he got woke and was willing to nuke it all to pursue his joy and happiness. Lost billions. Do you think he cared?

You can have a preference. And yes, you can prefer that your little nuclear family survives.

But let's be clear about one thing up front.... Preference implies you have a choice.

You are a man with the nuclear codes. Sure, you could hit the button at anytime. But the difference between TRP and MRP praxeology is this: your kids and your woman are standing right next to you and that nuke. This idea of “nexting” (nuking) is rooted in TRP logic and is the most powerful tool in your arsenal – your ultimate trump card – your ability to remove all you time and attention permanently.

Take back the nuke button, but don't use Rambo to get it. He'll use it on the way back to you for fun.

You must be willing to push the button to pursue your own joy and happiness. If you flinch, you fail.

You don’t have to press it though. But you sure as fuck better be willing and able to.

And when you can – with complete congruence to your desire for freedom and release from constraint that which could trap you – your woman will feel through this. She will know. And if you’re not a LARPing faggot she might just shut the fuck up, get in line, and get back to doing what a good woman does for a valuable man.

And maybe she won’t.

Your finger is on the trigger, motherfucker.

Dare yourself. Stop being afraid.

Dare yourself to live or die trying.