Women Don't Care How Strong You Are... They Care How Strong* You Look

The title is self-explanatory but since a lot of newer guys seem to miss this, let's break it down a bit.

How Women 'Feel' The World

99.99% of women do not have the frame of reference to appreciate how significant gains in strength are. My wife is extremely fit and regularly does the major powerlifting lifts on her own. She is a personal trainer. She still doesn't have the frame of reference to truly understand the difference between benching 275 and 365. Both are so far past her realm of personal experience that she can't relate. As such, she doesn't give a shit if I increase my BP from 275 to 365. She might congratulate me on an achievement but it won't win me any additional respect or tingles. Remember, women process their world through their feelings and they can't 'feel' what they can't personally relate to on an experiential level.

What my wife can understand is that there are now lines on my stomach where there weren't before. My deltoids stand out now because I've lost fat above the tricep and bicep. My upper body has more of a v shape because I've lost inches around the middle. Hence, tingles.

Strong versus Strong\*

Where I'm going with this is that if I want to generate tingles, I need to remember that looks > performance. Your woman cares far more about you looking strong* than actually being strong. I put an asterisk next to strong because I don't really mean strong in the fat powerlifter sense. I mean more of a powerful, competent sense like a men's physique athlete. Those guys look like they can run to and then still participate in a fight if they need to. The powerlifter? He looks like he would be out of breath after 5-6 punches. That's not really true, of course, especially if you've seen real strongman competitions but women don't have the frame of reference to really understand that on the primal level that generates tingles.

What Does This Mean To Me?

If you stand in front of the mirror at complete rest and don't see vertical and horizontal lines between your abs, you are too fat. I don't mean that in a medical sense. I mean that in a maximization of your SMV sense. Alternatively, if you can see lines between your abs but you have no V taper because you have the shoulders of an 11 year old girl, you don't have enough muscle mass.

What this means is that neither of the following guys is getting as much interest as he should be:

"Male, 6'0, 225lbs with 20% BF, 325# BP and 450# squat" - pretty strong but still too fat

"Male, 5'10, 145lbs with 8% BF, 175# BP and 245% squat" - pretty lean but not enough muscle

But are AWALT? Does this apply to every single woman? Maybe. Maybe not. Sure, some women may "prefer" leaner guys and some may "prefer" stronger guys but everyone still has a biological impulse to breed with the best possible genetic specimen.

That's the same as the guy who says "I really like much leaner girls" but who would be DTF Kate Upton in .001 seconds if she was even remotely available. Biology is biology.

So... stop settling for "18% BF" or "165# Bench Press"... go out there and become fucking Thor or Hugh Jackman or the 17 year old werewolf kid from Twilight that all the 45 year old moms were perving over. Don't settle for less.