If you aren't reading /r/theredpill then you aren't doing this "Red Pill Thing" correctly. Sure there is a lot of kook aid being imbibed over there, buts the upper, superficial layers. Down below, the information is rooted in ideals and maxims... And it's the same here as there... We just distill the information along a different paradigm.

One of the things you'll see is idea of not asking women on dates, but simply saying "I'm doing 'X' so you should stop by if you aren't busy."

Have you ever read, or heard, or seen examples (in TV or Movie) where a woman says (or similarly says), "he said I should stop by 'X' if I'm not busy because he'll be there. I don't know if this is a date or not. Did he ask me out? I think he likes me... We talk sometimes, but this seemed so casual..."

I'm sure you have because I've seen/heard many examples like this. The response from her friends is always along the lines of, "just go... See what happens!"

What you are witnessing is the hamster trying to gauge this new male presence; does he like me? I can't tell. He didn't ask me out, but he clearly wants to hang out. But he's so casual like if I didn't show up he'd be fine with it. But would that ruin things with him? Who else is going to be there? Who else is he going to be hanging out with if I don't show up?

The hamster hates loves this because it wants to find the BB to lock down as an orbiter but this new guy isn't acting like a guy that can orbit her... He's acting more like a guy who is the opposite of a BB orbiter. It follows, to the hamster, that this new guy must have alternatives to her, but he is interested enough to want to see her so he must be worth at least seeing. So the hamster spins, settles, and she makes an appearance where this new guy is.

By now the hamster has decided that she's going to lock down that man as a beta at the very least. That solipsistic little cretin now thinks its the one in charge. It completely forgot that she's there at his request, alone, with him.

The rest, if you follow TRP is easy.

This idea of "you should stop by..." Isn't only applicable to dating; it works in the marriage too. In fact we recommend that guys act like this a lot right at the beginning of their journey because of the easy dread it provides. Doing something in a place isn't wrong or bad... But it's you doing something and if she wants, she can hang out with you. She may not like the idea, but hanging out with you at your leisure is probably preferable to sitting at home like a loser (and the worst thing to a woman is being a loser.)

But this doesn't even stop at "dating" your wife... It extends to every single interaction.

The other side of "You should stop by..." is directing your attention elsewhere and this is employed when she isn't behaving in a desirable manner. In our dating example, if she starts talking about her "boyfriend(s)" or talking to other guys, you would simply talk to other people and do something else. It may even progress to you saying, "I'm heading out..." The impetus is, once again, on her to follow.

In marriage, when under the same roof, and she isn't acting appropriately, you simply go and do something else and if she was in public with you, acting a fool with other guys, you would simply say (or even simpler just do) "I'm heading out."

This attitude, this whole idea, extends to daily interactions and conversation. For this example I will use text game with your wife.

For many guys starting out on a new path with MRP, they find that game/flirting/sex talk with the wife doesn't go well... especially over text. Some wives may feel disgust and some may even berate you or employ guilt about your lecherous desires.

So there you are at work, bored, and your wife texts you about her being bored at work too:

W: I'm so bored!

H: me too. Go do something.

W: like what, I'm at work.

H: no idea, but if I was there, I bet I could come up with a few things...

W: I'm at work.

H: me too, but if was there...

silence follows for the next few minutes.

The proper action is to put the phone down after the last thing you said and find something to do (you are at work, after all). The improper action is to think of all the things you could say to fill the silence.

This is where the "you should stop by" attitude comes in. You basically told her to stop by (have a sexually-angled conversation) and she responded by being dismissive abruptly. The date example is you offering a drink, and her taking it and going off to talk to another guy; the intent is the same: your company is not important enough for her to continue spending time with you.

You made your intent clear (albeit with innuendo) that you'd like to say dirty things to her, and she knew that, but brushed you off with silence. At this point you simply stop talking to her until she talks to you.

It works on in-person conversations too: you're talking/discussing, perhaps she gets emotional about something which leads to anger for whatever and you simply direct your attention elsewhere; no time for unpleasant women.

You're in bed and she rejects sex with a hard no, you simply direct your attention elsewhere; no time for sexually dormant women.

You're at dinner and she is on the phone constantly, you simply direct your attention elsewhere; no time for preoccupied women.

You see, that simple dating idea espoused so frequently in TRP is an attitude for interactions... Not just a series of actions for dating and it all comes from a place that defines you, the man, as someone who is interesting and busy and is an extension of the idea of the The Prisoner's Dilemma.

Your mean cards and nice cards are worth more than hers in this game... Demonstrate that with this ideal.