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Did you grow up without a father like myself?

February 19, 2022

Currently looking for men who are willing and open to talk on zoom about their experience growing up without a father. I personally have never met my father and I am very curious to learn from other men what it was like for them and what it is like now.

Question: How does a young boy find his path in the world today without a father figure in his life?

Have a great day Kings

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[–]leelbeach 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

My dad died when I was 6/7 and I had no real father figures after that. I was pretty much raised by women after that and they were quite feminine.

[–]johndylaninrome[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Yeah same. How old are you? I’m doing these interviews about men that grew without fathers and their stories.

[–]leelbeach 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm 25 years old.

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[–]a-man-from-earth[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Removed because it's not a good idea to put personal contact info in a public comment. You can connect by PM or chat.

[–]ratherabsurd 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, he left when I was about 6. Had visits a few times up until I was around 9 or something, but for the most part he went to the pub during these.

My mum was mentally ill and had a boyfriend for many years that was mentally and physically abusive towards me. After he left she found another partner and they soon moved away, and I was as physically alone as I had always been in every other facet of life.

As to your question, I wish I knew. I'm 36 now and I feel much of my life has been an embarrassment trying to work this out. Certainly it can also be challenging if your one parent has their own issues and uses you as a tool to serve their own needs.

The things I have felt have been most useful have been getting into philosophy and art. I particularly enjoy stoicism, existentialism and absurdism. Also, finding characters in media to emulate, I think Jean-Luc Picard from Star Trek is a solid one.

Having said all this though, I feel really "out of sync" with other people. Maybe because I've had to basically invent myself with no blueprint I'm a bit hard to understand.

In general I feel far, far behind my contemporaries. Women also don't seem interested in damaged goods, so on top of being abandoned as a child, good luck every being loved because you're a broken man. Disposable.

[–]johndylaninrome[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I feel your pain, my man.

Well if you care to share your experience I would love to have a chat.

[–]ratherabsurd 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure mate, PM me if you like, happy to have a chat.

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