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Girlfriend and I broke up because she had mental health issues.

April 9, 2022

I 24M don't know how to paraphrase this. We'd been together for 4 and a half years now. But lately, we've both been stressed with studies, exams and so on. She seemed kinda off lately and I confronted her about it. She said she didn't feel anything anymore but still cared for me. She said she didn't want to do this injustice of lying to me. We decided to take a break. She has started therapy and wants to work on these issues but doesn't seem to know if she would want to rekindle our relationship.

I told her I still loved her though. I'm staying calm and stoic but I'm upset and don't want this to affect my studies as my carrer depends on it. She wants no contact until she sorts stuff out. We have agreed to meet tomorrow to talk about it further. I do love her and want to be with her but I want her to improve and feel better about herself.

How do I deal with this?

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Title Girlfriend and I broke up because she had mental health issues.
Author surrealstrength
Upvotes 24
Comments 8
Date April 9, 2022 5:51 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]a-man-from-earth 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Sounds like some time apart is the best solution, so you can both focus on your personal goals (your studies, her therapy). Maybe down the line you can rekindle this relationship. Say, a year from now. But it seems that trying to hold on to this would only hurt both of you.

I know this is tough, especially after being with her for most of your adult life. But tough decisions are part of life, and I think you have the right idea: stay calm and stoic, and let both of you take care of your individual lives.

[–]surrealstrength 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. It was tough indeed but I didn't want to force her into something she didn't want. I'm only hoping my study goes well and she recovers.

[–]Terminal-Psychosis 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

She found someone else dude. There is no such thing as "taking a break". That's her trying to make cheating on you ok. After he dumps her, she'll be back to you, the second (maybe 3rd or 4th) choice. Don't do that to yourself.

If she wasn't fucking other guys, there would be no need for any "break". This is an extremely common lie.

She's not worth your time anymore. Move on, find a girl that loves you.

[–]surrealstrength 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

We've always been open about everything.I had a talk about that. And it's not a break but a break up. She's had some issues growing up and i respect that she can't continue it further. I've also had stress related to my studies. The reason someone leaves is not always just sex. I'm sorry you feel that way. Take care.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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