Hey, brothers. A little bit of a sensitive matter?

surrealstrength · 2022-04-30T15:56:56+00:00

It's okay man. You're not alone. Do you feel like you're putting too much pressure on yourself to quit it?

Skirt_Douglas · 2022-04-30T17:04:55+00:00

The most effective strategy I have found is to just fill your time doing other things that you enjoy. The best way to fight an addiction is to replace it with a healthier addiction, and one of the reasons we fill our time with porn is because we have down time to fill in the first place.

But also, there is nothing to feel guilty about, you aren’t doing anything wrong by looking at porn. Maybe it is guilt that you failed yourself, I get that, but it is normal for you to have a sex drive, which is why porn is not like other addictions because we are going to want sexual stimulation our whole lives, and that’s not a character flaw, that’s being a human. But you want self control, and that’s also normal and understandable. So instead of just trying to resist yourself and beating your self up about it when you fail to resist, I think it is best to just find other things to fill your time that you will enjoy, and in doing so, your porn consumption will naturally rein itself in.

CrazyGoblin_5783 · 2022-05-01T14:32:42+00:00

It’s okay bro. Addicts tend to relapse at least once. Some have said this here already but try to find other pursuits that can fill your time. Working out, learning an instrument idk.

a-man-from-earth · 2022-04-30T15:43:24+00:00

Why do you feel guilty? And how badly does this affect you?

BonsaiSoul · 2022-05-01T06:17:54+00:00

Addiction is a mental health issue. How did you get diagnosed with this condition? What professional resources have you sought out for dealing with this problem.

Because I'll tell you, there are a lot of young men who have "self-diagnosed" and suffered great guilt and shame after being exposed to inaccurate, harmful information about their sexuality from online groups ideologically opposed to masturbation and pornography. If that's you, you need to escape from that situation and have your issue(which could legitimately include addiction) addressed by professionals who use evidence-based treatment to achieve realistic outcomes instead of encouraging toxic shame to enforce their personal feelings.

windowpass · 2022-05-17T03:24:13+00:00

It's healthy to wank every other day. reduces risks of prostate cancer.

If your body craves it, it's because it's needed.

UnHope20 · 2022-04-30T20:31:52+00:00

Why do you want to quit?

MachoManShark · 2022-05-28T02:17:30+00:00

i know i'm late to this, but i still think i have something useful to say.

relapsing is not going back to square one. it's really common for people to see failure as the end. addicts relapsing, people failing diets or exercise routines, not studying as planned, etc. this doesn't have to be true. falling off the wagon does not erase the progress you've made. that time when you were successful, as short as it is, is still valuable and still represents that you are making progress.

it's cliche, but you only truly fail after you stop trying. even if you try to quit again, and relapse faster than you did the first time, that's still time you spent not using.

good luck man <3

Title	Hey, brothers. A little bit of a sensitive matter?
Author	Demonic_Legume
Upvotes	36
Comments	8
Date	April 30, 2022 3:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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