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I'm going abroad on this Saturday for work. I feel uncertain and a bit afraid.

March 8, 2022


I have been thinking about this for quite some time and finally in the past 3 weeks I managed to arrange all necessary things for me to be able to work abroad.

I was hired through a recruitment agency for a warehouse job, which I applied to in the UK.

Now as time goes by I feel like I am becoming more and more uncertain about myself and the fact that I will leave my parents home, a familiar place, to go to work in a somewhat strange country(I've been in that town to work 2 years ago, had to come home because of Covid).

What should I do about myself to be more confident about leaving? How should I handle this kind of funny feeling of uncertainty?

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Title I'm going abroad on this Saturday for work. I feel uncertain and a bit afraid.
Author andrejmlotko
Upvotes 20
Comments 20
Date March 8, 2022 7:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/MenSupportMen
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[–]endmysufferingplsbby 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

First off my friend, congrats on the new fucking job! Fuck yeah! Also your feelings of uncertainty/being anxious are completely valid! What worked for me was envisioning the best thing happening and realizing I was moving forward with my life also realizing I’ve had uncertainty before and realizing I was strong enough to make it through it then, helped me realized that I can make it through it again and I’m strong! Remember my friend, you’re a strong individual see this as a positive thing! You’re moving forward and have a new job that’s a lot to be proud of! Sending love ❤️

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Now this is great! I'll do my best to keep thinking positively and like attract all positive outcomes for me.

Thank you so much for your kind words!

[–]endmysufferingplsbby 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No problem, we’re all here to support you! Feel free to reach out as well!

[–]surrealstrength 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations on your new job buddy!!! I understand doubt is a part of the journey. But i think once you start working everything will be fine. It's a little difficult to leave home. I left mine for 6 years for my education. I think you need to not bother yourself a lot. It's a feeling that is going to come to you before leaving home. And if you every meet anyone to reach out to you can always do it here

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Heh, username checks out, you might some surreal strength with you!

I am convincing myself that it will be fine and have a good feeling about working there.

Just need to get there first!

Thank you so much for your reply.

[–]surrealstrength 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks a lot for the compliment brother! I wish you all the best with your new job. You're gonna do great!!💪💪💪

[–]a-man-from-earth 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've done this several times. It's normal to feel apprehensive about it. It's a big step.

It's good you've already been to the place. That certainly will help finding your feet. Just remind yourself of your previous good experiences. You'll be fine.

Good luck with your move!

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you mate, I hope it will be all right!

[–]a-man-from-earth 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, you will. Sure there may be moments when it'll be hard, but that's life. And we have your back!

[–]hhemric1 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Bro you got this. Dont worry we are here for support. some of us have went through this in one shape or another. Like everyone said and imma echo it Congratulations!!!! Super excited for you! Just remember baby steps this is the first step to many, many, MANY awesome life experiences for you and you will be able to be enjoy being a tourist at home so to speak. But you will still have your net here when ya get there to best thing to do is write a list of things you really wanna try to hype yourself up. But again bro Congratulations on the job opportunity!

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Thank you very much, it's a great opportunity for me!

[–]hhemric1 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Trust me the first time out of the country is the worst but those are some things I did too settle me down. To date I've been to China like 6 times always look forward to the food. But you will find your thing.

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was always curious about british cousine and landscape and sights. Maybe I'll find my way to live there forafter!

[–]hhemric1 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

There ya go! Plus I figure it will be cheaper to travel around Europe as a whole then fly from the US so if ya wanted to see Ireland or Scotland or Germany or literally any European country your gucci.

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Btw, I'm 35 yo male.

[–]TalkaboutJoudy 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Well done on the new job. This will change and help you grow in many ways. I know it can be daunting but I wish you the best

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks buddy! I hope it's for the best and i'm leaving for good reasons.

[–]WEEBforLIFE24 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

you got this bro

[–]andrejmlotko[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awesome, you guys are making a positive effect! Thank you so much! I've been feeling trembling, but i'm ok now.

[–]lawott2 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How did this go for you?

I'd love to hear about your experiences as someone who also moves around a lot for work.

For what it's worth, I was extremely nervous about travelling abroad for the first time in my early twenties. Now it's become very mundane - but I can still pick out many things I enjoy about it. There's nothing quite like the feeling of being in a totally unfamiliar city, and the sense that you can do something entirely new there.

Edit: And of course reach out if you ever want to, I think I could offer a few tips on how to settle quickly into a new place. Off the top of my head, it helped really helped me to find an expat group (I used a website called InterNations). People who move countries find themselves in the same boat and quickly form mutually supportive communities. I hope you landed in your new role well, buddy.

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