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Is there no way out? Or am I just this unlucky

February 24, 2022

Hey 20 year old here. I don't know what's wrong, I've been trying my damn hardest to get better but it seems like the universe doesn't want me to.

Let's start with October last year, I was taking gym more and more seriously and what happens? My leg goes and gets sprained leaving me out of commission for a few month's so I couldn't do the one thing that kept me sane. To top it all off, someone goes and gets murdered in front of my apartment reawakening an old trauma and I didn't have gym to help me cope so I was left to endure a month of nightmares and lack of sleep (those stopped at least).

Fast forward to Chrismas. I flat out couldn't enjoy it despite being around family, I felt really down the whole day and my brother called me out sayinh that I changed... and not in a good way. I consulted my mom about it and we had a chat about it and reminded me about one of the true meanings of Christmas: time with family. I knew that but I didn't feel it. Cried myself to sleep that night

And then there's the crippling loneliness. When back in my hometown it's not so bad because I still have friends from High School. But at collage, because COVID fucked everything up, my social life is non-existant. I wanted to Volunteer but most shelters, etc are out of town and public transport in our country is shit so that option was out. With things opening up now I can try again but my optimism is waning.

And then there's today, I can go back to gym now and what happens? A major inconvenience, there was a shockwave around the area and my phone falls off the tredmill. And just my luck it falls off thr floor into the pool and now my phone is fucked, now my mood is in the shitter once again. And I'll probably lose motivation to go for a week or two.

Why does it have to be like this? I tried a lot of solutions. I can't afford therapy and my insurance doesn't cover it and all free/low cost options are short term so most long-term solutions are hella expensive. What the hell! Everytime I try take one step forward I end up taking two steps back! I know I'm pretty much ahouting into the void at this point but right now, I really need to let everything out to someone who is willing to listen, and I mean REALLY listen but... what's the point

I don't know what to do with myself at this point...

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Title Is there no way out? Or am I just this unlucky
Author Toxic_Lord
Upvotes 17
Comments 6
Date February 24, 2022 12:54 AM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit /r/MenSupportMen
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MenSupportMen/is-there-no-way-out-or-am-i-just-this-unlucky.1103230
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[–]a-man-from-earth 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You've just been really, really unlucky. But keep at it, and things will turn around.

I've been thru difficult times as well, where things seem hopeless with no way out. But luckily I didn't give up completely, and over time I did find that way out and ended up in a much better place.

Try to make friends at college, and try again to find a place to volunteer, somewhere nearby. These will be key to finding your way out.

And of course you're always welcome to vent here. We hear you.

[–]Toxic_Lord[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Sorry I'm a bit late but thanks. I did happen to stumble upon a homeless shelter nearby that could use some help, I'll have to call in later today

I managed to say hi to someone I know from way back in first year so... I'll see where it goes I guess.

Sorry, since you've gone through the effort to support me I didn't want to leave you hanging.

[–]a-man-from-earth 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, that's encouraging!

[–]surrealstrength 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm glad you found happiness in the gym. The satisfaction after completing a difficult physical task is unparalleled. I agree with the first comment. Try to talk to people in the gym. Sometimes the huge intimidating guys are often the most friendly.

[–]Toxic_Lord[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'll try next time I go back I'll try. Thanks for answering!

[–]Mrdickle 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It helps to take a different perspective of your situation.

For example. When we go to the gym we are essentially breaking down our muscles in very specific ways through targeted exercises. The exercises themselves are physically painful but because of that physical pain and sacrifice it leads to beneficial gains and muscle growth.

Now lets look at all the situations you went through.

You say you take 1 step forward and 2 steps back, but that's not true at all. You where faced with situations that where out of your control. You where faced with mental workouts that are designed to break down your emotional and mental "muscles" that you can learn from and grow from.

The only thing you can control is how you handle the situations you find yourself in. Just because life pushes you down doesnt mean you took steps back. You still took those steps forward and now you can learn better how to handle yourself and present yourself.

Keep growing those mental and physical muscles even if it seems like you are not getting anywhere.

The best thing you can do is the "right" thing. Whatever that may be for yourself. The second best thing you can do is the "wrong" thing. Because it allows you to learn what not to do in the future. The worst thing you can do for yourself is nothing. Because when nothing is done knowledge or experience isnt gained and you dont move forward. Wherever forward leads you.

We all will pass on eventually. Might as well die trying no matter how much life wants to keep pushing us down.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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