Men who have lost their fathers, what is fondest memory with them?

GM_Timephone · 2022-03-21T18:03:32+00:00

It's hard for me to come up with my fondest memory for my father. He was a wonderful man and a near-perfect role model. He was so very good to my mother, and put most of his effort into performing acts of service for his family. He was that silent rock in my life, and the only member of my family capable of talking about feelings (surprisingly enough, my mother is the hyper-stoic one). He always had advice, and it was almost always really good advice, and as I have progressed into being a father myself (my son was born in Jan) that is the part of my father I miss the most. Being able to ask him how to raise a child, how to be a loving husband, how to be a good man would be priceless to me right now.

The countless hours I spent as an employee of his landscaping company, going around town with him weeding gardens, installing lawns, spreading fertilizer, and trimming hedges I will never forget. Those quiet summer days we would spend fishing together on Great East Lake always meant a lot to me. Cooking lobsters at our family's yearly clambake every third Saturday in September just showed how much he loved doing things for people. His self-deprecating sense of humor I have absolutely inherited always reminds me of him.

He was flawed of course, but he was such a great man to have in my life. I wanted him to be the best man at my wedding because in my mind he was the best man on earth. Unfortunately cancer took him just as I met my now wife, whom I wouldn't marry for another five years. Now that he's gone I barely have a connection to the rest of my family. I tried to reconnect but you just can't make people care in the way you need them to. You can't make people be different from who they are.

I miss you dad. I don't believe in heaven or an afterlife of any kind but if there is one I hope you can see how much my son looks like you, and I hope you know how happy I am.

ds1724 · 2022-03-22T01:56:14+00:00

I lost my father last week and am having difficulty with it. I’d say my fondest memory was as a kid when we collected baseball cards together. Going to shops and flea markets to find them, organizing and pricing them out, it was something we really enjoyed together.

OriginalFinnah · 2022-03-22T05:02:19+00:00

The last time I saw him.

happygloaming · 2022-03-26T08:27:42+00:00

I had a terrible father, but I remember him singing me to sleep with his guitar when I was little. I didn't understand it until I sang my own boy to sleep.

Title	Men who have lost their fathers, what is fondest memory with them?
Author	surrealstrength
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Date	March 21, 2022 5:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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