What hobbies got you out of loneliness in your late 20s?

surrealstrength · 2022-10-31T10:36:02+00:00

I go the gym and try to pursue powerlifting. So that gives me a goal to achieve. Through that I've made a good number of friends in the gym. Then there are some games that i sometimes play. I try to focus on the story more so it's immersive. But i really suggest pursuing two things, One outdoor hobby and one indoor. That way you exercise your mind and your body. It could be running and gaming, gymming and learning an instrument, etc.

BMZ4164 · 2022-10-31T05:46:52+00:00

Pickleball... No joke. It changed my social life (by accident).

ZulutheZebra · 2022-10-31T13:54:17+00:00

My 20s was pretty much a study in isolation and hermitism. What changed it around for me was moving closer to my sister and brother-in-law, more than a specific hobby. At least now I have someone to drink with on the weekends.

TalkaboutJoudy · 2022-10-31T12:30:02+00:00

I’d recommend writing a novel - you end up connecting with other writers and it gives you longer term focus. It also can be cathartic as you may incorporate and transform some of your struggles as you write. And as you research for the novel - it may open up new ideas for your life

Skirt_Douglas · 2022-10-31T15:27:22+00:00

Going to raves, collaborative music production, and dnd.

emetres121 · 2022-10-31T15:52:34+00:00

Depending on where you live there is this amazing app called meetup. There are many different activities usually in your city that will help you meet new people while doing something fun.

After my last relationship I became really lonely as she was very toxic and had literally manipulated me to cutting out my friends.

I joined a volleyball league, a kickball league, a frisbee league and a bowling league(winter) and made many new friendships that got me back and out meeting more and more people. They also have meetups for board games, wine tastings, etc. You can really find whatever floats your boat and the internet will bring random strangers there, one of my friends met his now wife that way too

Captain_Kirby240 · 2022-10-31T16:01:33+00:00

Dropped my friend group after they lost themselves to drugs and alcohol, eventually also lost my gf at the time and decided to treat myself and learn to love myself more, I always wanted to do something with music so I bought myself a bass guitar and absolutely fell in love with it, best purchase I've ever done in my life.

Feyadin · 2022-10-31T04:19:38+00:00

Honestly, playing TTRPGs like Dungeons and Dragons or Pathfinder. Check your area, you may also have a Warhammer store close enough where you could get into that, as well, provided you have the disposable income. If you find the right group, you just made a solid group of friends simply because of little pieces of plastic.

I've also tried finding a book club that caters to mainly science fiction and fantasy, as that's what I'm into reading. Going to concerts when I can, slowly getting back to the gym and eventually into kick boxing, maybe take some classes at your local college to learn a new skill or get progress on an occupational certification

Not knowing what your interests are makes it a little difficult to give any really meaningful advice beyond what I've given. Also for reference, I'm a 37 year old guy who is about to be going through a divorce in a place where I haven't had time or opportunity to really make friends due to my old job, but that's the road I plan on taking once I get some things squared away in my life.

UnHope20 · 2022-11-01T00:12:04+00:00

Martial arts are an amazing way to meet new people and get into great shape and learn self-control.

The self control bit might seem paradoxical with all of the sparing but fighting really does help you gain more empathy.

Not sure how it all works but I can say that once your confidence goes up from gaining self defense skills you really do have less to prove because people aren't as threatening.

Also experiencing pain and learning to monitor your opponents cues allows you to comprehend and appreciate them as humans in a way that is hard to explain.

Finally, getting your ass kicked in a fair fight with rules and referee in front of a crowd of people can teach you about humility and sportsmanship. You learn to respect the other fighter's skills and dedication to the sport and you want to be better for yourself, your dojo and your competition.

It's funny because it's totally not what people think it is from the outside. Be forewarned, it is addictive

LettuceBeGrateful · 2022-11-01T02:40:33+00:00

I used to feel a lot like you.

Honestly, therapy was a big help in getting me out of that social rut of distrusting people. I also adopted a cat (and eventually, a dog!), and that's really the moment my life changed. I no longer feel like my birthdays are ticking time bombs, because I have enough love and fulfillment in my life to enjoy the present moment.

It's a process, though. Changing your mindset doesn't happen overnight, especially if you were like me and you feel like you drifted through most of your 20s aimlessly. Those type of thoughts can be very painful.

iR3SQem · 2022-10-31T13:34:37+00:00

Ice hockey.

VeryNovemberous · 2022-10-31T16:43:18+00:00

Joined an amateur/secular choir group.

Title	What hobbies got you out of loneliness in your late 20s?
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Date	October 31, 2022 3:29 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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