When I see a girl I'm attracted to, all I can think of are the ways I can fuck up.

Disastrous-Star-7746 · 2023-04-26T02:14:06+00:00

Remember they may be thinking the very same thing of you. You said you're feeling more confident and attractive, they can see that. Remember that you're dating to find out if you actually like them. Not just think they're hot, but like the. If you take someone out and don't feel good about it just say thanks and you don't see meeting again.

LoveTheGiraffe · 2023-04-26T16:30:49+00:00

I think you are trying to hard. Just meet up with attractive women without the mindset that it needs to lead to anything. I've been on a few dates recently after a toxic breakup and it was nice. It never lead to anything, just some nice talks, we split the check and with one I actually became friends.

It's basically just having drinks with a stranger and getting to know them. No pressure. And just be yourself. What do you mean by "fucking up"? Because that sounds like you have a goal in mind. If your goal is to just have a nice evening, it's hard to fuck up.

Once you get to know each other better and you'll feel more comfortable, maybe it's easier to pursue something for you. One option could also be, that you make it clear, that you are not looking for anything serious, while you're figuring yourself out.

twisty286 · 2023-04-26T22:40:00+00:00

honestly in the end people won't care about how your dating status is, how you look, dress, ect. they only care about themselves and are too worried about what other people think of them. my point is, focus on yourself and don't worry about what people think or say

ZulutheZebra · 2023-04-26T00:17:27+00:00

It sounds to me like you have some unresolved feelings about the whole situation with your ex, and as a result is leading to some nerves and possible subconscious self sabotage.

Personally, my advice would be to get some casual partners who are really into you that you can use to ease back into the game. If you are an attractive guy, go hit on some slightly less attractive women and have some fun with them. Just to clarify, I only mention less attractive women because I think it would take a lot of the pressure off you as you get back into the game, but obviously make your own choice on who you want. As long as you are clear that you are just looking for short term fun, some of those women you mentioned would probably be more than happy to hop in your bed. Once you have spent some time on casual relationships and see that not every woman is a soul sucking harpy, it might be time to get back into the serious dating game. Either way things turn out, best of luck to you my friend; take care of yourself and your happiness first and foremost.

Title	When I see a girl I'm attracted to, all I can think of are the ways I can fuck up.
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Date	April 25, 2023 10:47 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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