A fantastic resource about how much a man will usually lose in a divorce, depending on the state. Probably the worst for men is Massachusetts

Wisemanner · 2016-08-14T11:28:21+00:00

Every man who is considering marriage should be advised to read this. Twice!

Tedesche · 2016-08-14T12:49:53+00:00

Thanks for the link! You're right, this seems like a great resource, particularly because it doesn't seem to come from authors that have a men's rights agenda, so it can't be dismissed on those grounds.

RedBigMan · 2016-08-14T15:55:49+00:00

I've seen a story where a man in Massachusetts had his ex wife contact him 25 YEARS after their divorce for alimony because she made bad life choices and he did not. He had his own family, wife, children, etc........ And the ex WON alimony. Crazy!!!!!!! TWENTY FIVE YEARS LATER........ Let that sink in.

--Visionary-- · 2016-08-14T22:14:53+00:00

Also very relevant:

http://jech.bmj.com/content/57/12/993.full

it was observed that divorced and separated men were nearly 2.4 times more likely to kill themselves than their married counterparts.

After taking into account other factors that have been reported to contribute to suicide, divorced men still experienced much increased risks of suicide than divorced women. They were nearly 9.7 times more likely to kill themselves than comparable divorced women

And then, if you're considering marriage and assuming that you, as a man, will be able to "control" being divorced -- from the OP's site, using Massachusetts data:

We excluded a same-sex case, leaving 242 lawsuits. Of those 242 cases, 175 were filed by women (72.3 percent) and 67 by men (27.7 percent). In other words, at least for that month in that county a wife was more than 2.5 times as likely to file a divorce lawsuit than was her husband.

All men should go into marriage with eyes open. Anecdotally as a physician, I will add that society will not give a shit about you if she decides to divorce you and then you kill yourself. If anything, despite her filing for divorce and her taking the kids and her taking the house and her taking the money and you suffering, people will feel for HER instead. And yea, QUITE A BIT of the status quo that currently exists is due to feminist organizations and people. In case anyone was about to whine about how feminist-bashing on this sub is so uncouth or something. Quite literally, men die because of feminist ideology and yea, opposing that ideology anytime one can is extremely material to anyone who cares about men's rights.

themcp · 2016-08-15T03:24:23+00:00

A friend of mine was divorcing in MA. He and his wife had made an agreement 17 years before that he gave up his great career to take care of their child, while she kept her great career and supported the family. She made a few hundred thousand dollars per year, and he made nothing, and he had been out of his field for so long the tools had totally changed and he was no longer able to work in the field, even though he had been a director before he left to be a house husband.

At the divorce, her lawyer said that if he accepted a piddling settlement and let her have full custody of their child with no visitation, she wouldn't demand he pay her alimony. Let me get this clear, she was going to demand he pay her alimony, despite that he hadn't worked in 17 years because she asked him not to.

He had had a nervous breakdown over the divorce, so he accepted her offer because he couldn't deal with any further argument. She gave him a tiny amount of money, and he had to leave the state because he couldn't afford to live here. A couple years later he had a heart attack and died.

cymrich · 2016-08-14T18:09:22+00:00

well the info for Alaska is outdated for sure... my landlord just finished divorce proceedings and he had to pay $400 an hour whereas it states the top is $350 in there.

on an interesting note... it also has an excerpt from a news article to illustrate how things can be "strange" up here... its about a church pastor who shot and killed two burglars as they ran away... I used to work with the son of one of the burglars.

Title	A fantastic resource about how much a man will usually lose in a divorce, depending on the state. Probably the worst for men is Massachusetts
Author	bigeyedbunny
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Date	August 14, 2016 10:54 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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