I recently came across a definition of abuse in a feminist publication which can be used as a criticism of some common feminist responses to men's rights:
One of the most important verbal tactics used by abusers is this: minimizing, denying, and blaming. Abusers minimize the pain they cause; they deny that they caused it; they blame the victim for what happened.
Thorn, Clarisse (2012-03-06). Confessions of a Pickup Artist Chaser: Long Interviews with Hideous Men (Kindle Locations 2923-2924). . Kindle Edition.
What are some common feminist responses to men's rights issues?
Your problems as men are minor compared to what women face (minimization).
Feminism did not contribute to your problems (denying).
We live in a patriarchy, so you men caused your own problems (blaming).
Using a feminist definition of abuse, it would appear that common feminist attacks on men's rights issues are abusive in nature.
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