I'm not saying dirty motherfuckers don't father kids and not take care of them.

I understand most single moms are struggling to make ends meet with kids, but to me that's not a virtue. Many times they need the cash because they aren't able to manage their own lives properly and that cash, which is meant to go to their kids end up being used to palliate their own inadequacies and their own spending habits. I would always put the kids with the parent making enough money to take care of them properly. If the mother is poor and struggling, and the father is better off, I'd take the kids, give them to the father until the mother is back on her feet and able to prove she can take care of herself and someone else before she can argue to have the kids back. And if the kids end up being happier with the father, I'd leave them with him. And I think that's something most feminist are afraid of. They're afraid that kids might be happier with a father instead of a mother.

You can have all the good intentions in the world, but results and actions are more important to me. I'd prefer a parent that works their ass to death to provide for the kids and be less loving than a parent that has all the love in the world but continually spends too much to be able to properly provide. That's just my philosophy and personality, tho. If you have good intentions, but can't keep yourself from buying that pack of cigarettes everyday, and you end up using a part of the allocations of your kids to buy food for yourself with it, you are failing your kids. It doesn't matter if you feel bad about it, it doesn't matter if you want to do the right thing if you cannot make yourself do it.

I know a strong marriage and heterosexual parental unit that is married is the only properly functioning unit able to raise a family correctly with the least chance of failings. I think that's a far more important thing to be teaching young parents to be, and the most effective way to deal with the problem of single parents, it's to keep parents married and to make them uphold their duties. Everything else is a product of this part of the family failing. There are unhappy married couples, but there are far less kids, proportionally, with problems from married couples than kids with divorced parents.

I'd finish by saying that, divorce is failing enough for me to not respect a parent when the divorce is because there is no more love in the unit. Divorce for reasons like violence, addiction, or crippling and dangerous mental illness I can understand, but any other reason for a divorce, I have no respect for the person that asked for the divorce or for both if that's the case. They formed a family, decided to bring a child into it, knowing really well that it would be a partnership for at least 18 years, and they end the partnership because of selfish reasons and because they didn't properly take care of the relationship. They sacrifice a stable home during the most important developmental years of a human being that had no say in whether to be brought into the situation, because they couldn't maintain their duty towards that child, preferring to follow their desires. That is weak, and weak parents cannot take care of their children properly.