Your temporary alimony is referred to as rehabilitative. The problem with always limiting it to 2 years is that someone who was married for 20 years and raised 4 kids full-time gave up 20 years of their life that they could have obtained work experience and higher education. That lost potential can't be replaced in 2 years. The pay ceiling and opportunities for a 40 year old who hasn't worked in 20 years are abysmal compared to the spouse who was working that whole time
If you think that married couples with children are just making individual decisions about things crucial to their family unit, there is no way to engage in any type of fruitful discussion. It’s fine if the woman stays home, it’s fine if the man stays home. People make these decisions as a couple, not individually. Your analysis makes it seem like you’ve never been in a committed relationship.
Alimony is fine as long as both sexes get it at the same rate, and at a reasonable volume. Today it seems like that’s not the case. If one partner in a relationship makes a considerable career sacrifice to take care of the children, they should receive REASONABLE compensation.
It sounds like you have a very dark outlook on relationships. To back up your claim, you reference an unfaithful marriage, and a wife making a decision that is financially reckless so she can stay at home. If that’s how decisions are made in your relationships, I genuinely hope you are able to find someone better.
Except that most of the time the man encourages that decision or even asks for it. There are plenty of men with high paying jobs that actively want their wife to stay at home and raise the kids full-time. It's a service to the husband.
Alimony is really something that needs to be evaluated on a case by case basis, and saying “most of the time men encourage or ask for it” in regard to their wife leaving their job is a claim that I would bet you are not able to support.
And saying "99% of the time it is the women who make the decision to stay at home with the kids" is a claim that i would bet you are not able to support. Such a claim supposes that these women are simptl deciding to do so without any assurance or encouragement by their husbands. Alimony is evaluated on a case by case basis. I don't know what country you live in, but the states that grant spousal support in the US can grant them to either the husband or wife depending on who stayed home. Nobody is arguing that spousal support should only be granted to women.
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Your temporary alimony is referred to as rehabilitative. The problem with always limiting it to 2 years is that someone who was married for 20 years and raised 4 kids full-time gave up 20 years of their life that they could have obtained work experience and higher education. That lost potential can't be replaced in 2 years. The pay ceiling and opportunities for a 40 year old who hasn't worked in 20 years are abysmal compared to the spouse who was working that whole time
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If you think that married couples with children are just making individual decisions about things crucial to their family unit, there is no way to engage in any type of fruitful discussion. It’s fine if the woman stays home, it’s fine if the man stays home. People make these decisions as a couple, not individually. Your analysis makes it seem like you’ve never been in a committed relationship.
Alimony is fine as long as both sexes get it at the same rate, and at a reasonable volume. Today it seems like that’s not the case. If one partner in a relationship makes a considerable career sacrifice to take care of the children, they should receive REASONABLE compensation.
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It sounds like you have a very dark outlook on relationships. To back up your claim, you reference an unfaithful marriage, and a wife making a decision that is financially reckless so she can stay at home. If that’s how decisions are made in your relationships, I genuinely hope you are able to find someone better.
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Except that most of the time the man encourages that decision or even asks for it. There are plenty of men with high paying jobs that actively want their wife to stay at home and raise the kids full-time. It's a service to the husband.
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Alimony is really something that needs to be evaluated on a case by case basis, and saying “most of the time men encourage or ask for it” in regard to their wife leaving their job is a claim that I would bet you are not able to support.
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And saying "99% of the time it is the women who make the decision to stay at home with the kids" is a claim that i would bet you are not able to support. Such a claim supposes that these women are simptl deciding to do so without any assurance or encouragement by their husbands. Alimony is evaluated on a case by case basis. I don't know what country you live in, but the states that grant spousal support in the US can grant them to either the husband or wife depending on who stayed home. Nobody is arguing that spousal support should only be granted to women.
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