From r/relationships: Man is unnerved by his wife's positive/sympathetic response to their daughter cheating on her husband and getting pregnant to another man

Fragrant-Leadership · 2020-02-10T13:32:11+00:00

Is he sure that she's his daughter ?

abananaa1 · 2020-02-10T13:53:47+00:00

Paternity fraud is the evolutionary equivalent of rape. Forcing your child on a woman, and then not supporting it, Vs forcing someone else's child on a man, and duping him into supporting it. Of course women don't think it's as bad as men do, women's main goal is to get a child supported by a man, regardless of who the father is or the man supporting the child is.

Marusero25 · 2020-02-10T17:01:19+00:00

If I ever get kids I will be doing a DNA test

VoxVirilis · 2020-02-10T22:45:19+00:00

Water and sugar?

Dude, your daughter is one of those bug aliens from the first MIB.

N19864 · 2020-02-10T14:11:58+00:00

I am aware the title is confusing and unclear, but the situation is complicated. I am overwhelmed and confused and I feel like everything I knew about the people closest to me was a lie.

Long story short, my daughter Anna (25F) cheated on her boyfriend Adam (27M) who I have an amazing relationship with and is now pregnant. The child is not his. The other man doesn't know yet. Adam was on a business trip that lasted about 3 weeks. After he came back I assume Anna told him about the pregnancy because he called and said he wanted to propose and If I had any tips for him.

Three days later he comes to drop a wailing Anna off at our house with all of her belongings. Apparently, Anna's friend told him about the cheating. That is the only thing she told us through the crying Adam didn't say anything he just took her stuff out of the car and drove off.

I was, and still am , deeply disgusted with my daughter. I did my best to raise her well and I can't believe she would do this. I am not able to offer Her any comfort or support because I just can't justify her actions. She is my daughter and I love her but I feel such deep disgust. What she did is despicable. I texted Adam, asking if he was okay. He said he'll be fine.

As if these conflicting emotions regarding my daughter weren't enough, I have some about my wife and the way she is handling this.

My wife Mary as soon as she saw Anna crying started to yell at Adam asking what happened , cursing at him after he ignored her. Her reaction just added to my shock. I brought Anna inside while she was yelling and cursing. We comforted her, gave her water and sugar when she told us what happened through tears. My wife was shushing her , telling her it was going to be okay.
But then she started saying things like "you'll find someone better" , "he wasn't man enough anyway" which disturbed me. She doesn't see anything wrong with what she said. I told Her that our daughter did something terrible and nearly got away with doing that to someone and that she shouldn't be validated . I'm not saying we should insult her, but we shouldn't validate her choices either. She disagrees and says she needs our support.

I really don't know what to do. I'm disgusted by both of them , but at the same time they're my wife and daughter. This is the fourth day since it happened and Anna is posting on her Facebook things like "Men are trash" and badmouthing her friend who told Adam. I dont really talk to her. Mary told me "don't you dare talk to her about Adam". I started spending more time out of the house. What do I do. I really need advice on how to handle this.

TL;DR my daughter tried to trick her boyfriend into raising a child that is not his and I'm disturbed by my wife's reaction to it

His immoral wife is raising trash. He needs to set his daughter straight before she becomes a danger to other innocent men and raises the next generation of trash. You can see that trash in some of the commentators who try to make excuses for the daughter. Zero remorse from the child like spoiled daughter.

If you are feeling generous, his wife can be somewhat forgiven for the initial reaction. But after days of protecting an immoral act, she is as immoral as hell and there is zero excuse for the mothers behaviour. Imagine a stream of single mother raising daughters just like that. I wonder why the crime rate is up?

Female Psychopaths or those who have traits of it, I would bet my last dollar they are a lot more common than males.

Ody_ssey · 2020-02-10T14:16:05+00:00

Looks like complete projection. He needs to do paternity test on his daughter.

tenchineuro · 2020-02-10T15:36:04+00:00

For some reason notabug does not load for me.

JaggedGreen88 · 2020-02-10T22:49:36+00:00

I'd probably end up divorced. I guess I'm old school but, after about a week of letting her vent her frustrations, I'd just tell her point blank. You whored around and lied. You got caught and now have to grow up and face the consequences of your actions.

Title	From r/relationships: Man is unnerved by his wife's positive/sympathetic response to their daughter cheating on her husband and getting pregnant to another man
Author	EricAllonde
Upvotes	66
Comments	20
Date	February 10, 2020 1:14 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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