I'm right here with you. I don't drink all the time but when I drink I drink a lot.
I've decided to pretty much give up drinking. I stopped smoking a while ago. I have started taking medication and seeing a therapist(although I need to find a new one). This is not an easy change and it takes a long time and involves a lot of ups and downs.
My problems got so bad that I lost the woman of my dreams and basically lost my twenties to depression and anger.
But you need to do it for yourself. You have to want to have the change in your life. It isn't easy. I read a lot of books, practice journaling, exercise, eating better. They all go together.
And you have to learn to love yourself, that's the biggest one I struggle with.
I have a full time job and health insurance but can't actually afford to see a shrink less or get the healthcare I've been putting off. Last shrink I saw actually fell asleep during our sessions. Multiple times. My job is brutal is on my body and mind. Between the pittance I'm paid and the literal abuse, violence, and shit I deal I with I don't have the emotional capacity to be the husband my wife needs. I'm trapped in a job that's regularly killing my coworkers in their thirties and forties barely making above poverty wage and being told to be grateful.
I need training and work that pays the bills. Work that I can raise a family with. No company in my shit town or within two summer drive hours will pay what it costs to live and train or if they do I don't face a chance in hell fighting against college grads and masters without families. I've looked country wide and it's same everywhere I look. The only places that call back pay minimum wage or near it and don't offer benefits. Can't get welfare, higher ed, or training and not see my family torn apart for the crime of being poor. The fuck am I supposed to do besides kill myself for being a failure? I'm not planning to today, so kindly fuck off if you haven't got actionable leads.
And yes, I have looked at trades. Apprentices get minimum wage and classes coincide with my work so I'm sol there.
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I'm right here with you. I don't drink all the time but when I drink I drink a lot.
I've decided to pretty much give up drinking. I stopped smoking a while ago. I have started taking medication and seeing a therapist(although I need to find a new one). This is not an easy change and it takes a long time and involves a lot of ups and downs.
My problems got so bad that I lost the woman of my dreams and basically lost my twenties to depression and anger.
But you need to do it for yourself. You have to want to have the change in your life. It isn't easy. I read a lot of books, practice journaling, exercise, eating better. They all go together.
And you have to learn to love yourself, that's the biggest one I struggle with.
You can do it. I'm here if you need to talk.
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Women do attempt suicide more though, the difference is the motive
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Where's the help guys?
I have a full time job and health insurance but can't actually afford to see a shrink less or get the healthcare I've been putting off. Last shrink I saw actually fell asleep during our sessions. Multiple times. My job is brutal is on my body and mind. Between the pittance I'm paid and the literal abuse, violence, and shit I deal I with I don't have the emotional capacity to be the husband my wife needs. I'm trapped in a job that's regularly killing my coworkers in their thirties and forties barely making above poverty wage and being told to be grateful.
I need training and work that pays the bills. Work that I can raise a family with. No company in my shit town or within two summer drive hours will pay what it costs to live and train or if they do I don't face a chance in hell fighting against college grads and masters without families. I've looked country wide and it's same everywhere I look. The only places that call back pay minimum wage or near it and don't offer benefits. Can't get welfare, higher ed, or training and not see my family torn apart for the crime of being poor. The fuck am I supposed to do besides kill myself for being a failure? I'm not planning to today, so kindly fuck off if you haven't got actionable leads.
And yes, I have looked at trades. Apprentices get minimum wage and classes coincide with my work so I'm sol there.
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